Overthinking kills your happiness, insecurities kills your self-esteem, & lies kills your trust.
As I have aged I have discovered that if I want to live an active and happy life I need to go about doing so without too much delay. I see way too many folks spending so much time getting ready that they miss the race. Overthinking about what we might do is often the way to make sure we won’t do what we could.
It is one thing to procrastinate because we would rather do something else but it is never healthy to procrastinate because we are reluctant or afraid to start. It is like hockey player Wayne Gretzky said some time ago “You miss 100% of the shots you don’t take.” In life you will never know how good it can be if you just stay where you are.
Here are some tips on how to stop overthinking that I copied from an article by Henrik Edberg
How to Stop Overthinking Everything
What is holding people back from the life that they truly want to live? I’d say that one very common and destructive thing is that they think too much. They overthink every little problem until it becomes bigger and scarier and it actually is. Overthink positive things until they don’t look so positive anymore.
Now, thinking things through can be a great thing of course. But being an overthinker can result in becoming someone who stands still in life. In becoming someone who self-sabotages the good things that happen in life.
Put things into a wider perspective.
It is very easy to fall into the trap of overthinking minor things in life. So when you are thinking and thinking about something ask yourself: Will this matter in 5 years? Or even in 5 weeks?
Set short time-limits for decisions.
If you do not have a time-limit for when you must make a decision and take action then you can just keep turning your thoughts around and around and view them from all angles in your mind for a very long time. So learn to become better at making decisions and to spring into action by setting deadlines in your daily life. No matter if it is a small or bigger decision.
Realize that you cannot control everything.
Trying to think things through 50 times can be a way to try to control everything. To cover every eventuality so you do not risk making a mistake, fail or looking like a fool. But those things are a part of living a life where you truly stretch your comfort zone. Everyone who you may admire and have lived a life that inspires you has failed. They have made mistakes. But in most cases they have also seen these things as valuable feedback to learn from. Those things that may look negative have taught them a lot and have been invaluable to help them to grow.
Do not get lost in vague fears.
Another trap that I have fallen into many times that have spurred on overthinking is that I have gotten lost in vague fears about a situation in my life. And so my mind running wild has created disaster scenarios about what could happen if I do something. So I have learned to ask myself: honestly, what is the worst that could happen? And when I have figured out what the worst that could happen actually is then I can also spend a little time to think about what I can do if that often pretty unlikely thing happens.
Spend more of your time in the present moment.
By being in the present moment in your everyday life rather than in the past or a possible future in your mind you can replace more and more of the time you usually spend on overthinking things with just being here right now instead.
Spend more of your time with people who do not overthink things.
Your social environment plays a big part. And not just the people and groups close to you in real life. But also what you read, listen to and watch. The blogs, books, forums, movies, podcasts and music in your life. Find ways to spend more of your time and attention with the people and sources that have a positive effect on your thinking and less on the influences that tends to strengthen your overthinking habit.
“This is probably the advantage of being stupid. Stupid people just do. We tend to overthink. If we could eliminate the “over” and just think, then we could do, too. Only we’d be smarter doers because we’d be thinkers.”
There once was a business owner who was interviewing people for a division manager position and had a variety of individuals applying for the position. He decided to select the individual that could answer the question how much is 2+2?
The first candidate was an engineer. He pulled out a slide rule and showed that the answer was 4.
The second candidate was an attorney. He stated that in the case of Svenson vs. the State, 2+2 was proven to be 4.
The final candidate was a CPA. When asked what 2+2 equaled, the CPA did not respond immediately. He looked at the business owner, then got out of his chair and went to see if anyone was listening at the door. Then he returned to the business owner and said, “What would you like it to be?”
Why do fat chance and slim chance mean the same thing?
An elderly gentlemen went in for his annual physical exam. The doctor said, “You’re in incredible shape. How old are you again?” The man replied, “I am 78.”
The doctor exclaimed, “Wow, 78. How do you stay so healthy? You look like a 60 year old.” The man explained, “Well, my wife and I made a pact when we got married that whenever she got mad she would go into the kitchen and cool off and I would go outside to settle down.”
“What does that have to do with it?” asked the doctor. The man sighed, “I’ve pretty much lived an outdoor life.”
Nothing multiplies so much as kindness.
A new hair salon opened up for business right across the street from the old established hair cutters’ place. They put up a big bold sign which read:
“WE GIVE SEVEN DOLLAR HAIR CUTS!”
Not to be outdone, the old Master Barber put up his own sign:
“WE FIX SEVEN DOLLAR HAIR CUTS”
She’s afraid that if she leaves, she’ll become the life of the party.
An elderly Jew is struck by a car and brought to the hospital.
A pretty nurse tucks him into bed and says, “Mr. Epstein, are you comfortable?”
Epstein replies, “I make a nice living.”
If you always do what you’ve always done, you will always get what you’ve always got. If you want things that you never got, you must do things you have never done!
Stay well, do good work, and have fun.
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