Ray's musings and humor

“To get the full value of joy you must have someone to divide it with.”

Mark Twain

companionship

One of the things I learned long ago was how much better things are that are shared rather than just experienced. There is a special joy that comes from being with a spouse watching your child’s first step. A win by your favorite sports team is much more fun when seen with a friend. And have you noticed how much more you can appreciate a beautiful sunset when it is watched with someone special at your side.

In truth it is companionship that not only adds to lifes joy but also makes the more difficult times easier to handle. I am not sure we appreciate the value our friends, family and loved ones as they accompany us during the stages of our lives, especially during our formative and middle years. But I do know the pain that comes to far too many from the loneliness they experience in old age. But I know many that truly love the golden years, these are folks who are always offering companionship to others and who in the process benefit from the relationships that they continue to make.

So my friends please let those who share in your life know they are appreciated and as you go through your life. Reach out to others as the years go by for they can keep you happy and healthy.

Here are tips offered by Mart Mohler for AARP on how we can find friends to share our lives. Please offer it to the potentially lonely not as a judgmental criticism of their lives but rather as a gift you willing to share with them.

Never Too Old to Find New Friends

When you were in school, you had no problem making friends. Ditto for those years when you were a parent of growing kids. But now that you’ve reached a new stage of life — and maybe have relocated or retired — making new acquaintances can be a little trickier. Still, it’s important to make the effort. Close relationships with others are vital to your health — physical, mental and emotional — your self-esteem and even your longevity, according to recent research. So if you find yourself enthusiastically chatting with telemarketers, you probably need to make some new connections. Here are 15 things that can help you.

  1. Get over the idea that everybody else your age already has all the friends they need. “Nobody wears a sign that says ‘I’m looking for a friend,’ but there are a lot of people out there in the same boat,” Paul says.
  2. Accept invitations, even if you suspect it won’t be the night of your life. Just getting out increases the chances of meeting new people — and friends are sometimes found in unlikely places.
  3. Check out continuing-education classes at your local college or university. In addition, many colleges allow older adults to audit regular classes for free, and some have programs specifically for seniors.
  4. Senior centers have moved way beyond Friday-night bingo. Most have a variety of classes, activities and even trips. Stop by and ask for a schedule.
  5. If you’re retired, take a part-time job, even for just a few hours a week. It will expose you to new people and give you a little extra pocket money to boot.
  6. Pursue your own interests — concerts, lectures, tai chi, cooking classes, whatever. “Look for things you’re passionate about and attend consistently so that you have time to build relationships naturally,” Paul says.
  7. Set up a page on Facebook. You can connect with old friends and friends of friends — who just may happen to know someone in your area. Worst case: you’ll find a few online soul mates.
  8. Invite a few of your neighbors for dinner if you like to cook, or organize a potluck meal if you don’t.
  9. Get a dog if you’re an animal lover. Conversations with other dog walkers are guaranteed, and even people without pets will stop to say hello to Max, giving you the perfect opener. Can’t have a pet? Volunteer at your local shelter.
  10. Work out at a nearby gym or the Y — but don’t just do the machine routine: Join a class so you see the same people every week.
  11. “Don’t put too much pressure on a fragile new friendship because that can scare people away,” Paul says. If someone doesn’t call you back immediately, don’t assume they simply don’t like you. Try again.
  12. Have faith — and exercise it. Many churches and synagogues make it a point to welcome newbies and introduce them around.
  13. Volunteer in your community. Museums, hospitals, churches, animal shelters and schools are always looking for people to help out. Find opportunities in your area at AARP’s createthegood.org or VolunteersofAmerica.org.
  14. Log on to Meetup.com and enter your ZIP code. You’ll find dozens, even hundreds, of groups in your area, focusing on everything from animals to Zen meditation. Also check out the AARP online community. If you can’t find the right group, you can start your own.
  15. Be willing to take a risk. When you meet someone you like — a salesperson or someone seated next to you at a lunch counter — take the initiative and ask for an email address. What’s the worst that can happen?

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“Joy multiplies when it is shared among friends, but grief diminishes with every division. That is life.”

R.A. Salvatore

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In a perfect world………

A person should feel as good at 50 as he did at 17 and he would actually be as smart at 50 as he thought he was at 17.

Forget-me-nots would stimulate the memory.

Doing what was good for you would be what you enjoyed doing the most.

Pro baseball players would complain about teachers being paid contracts worth millions of dollars.

Potato chips might have calories, but if you ate them with a dip, the calories would be neutralized.

First impressions wouldn’t count for nearly as much as ultimate performance.

Highway patrolmen would never be around when you’re running late, but would always be at your side when a BMW blows past or a Mac truck won’t get off your bumper.

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You know the honeymoon is pretty much over when you start to go out with the boys on Wednesday nights, and so does she.

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A fellow got up one Saturday morning with the odd feeling that something about this day was to be different. Something unusual was about to happen. He glanced out the window at the thermometer: 33 degrees. He went downstairs – the clock had stopped at 3 o’clock. He picked up the newspaper and read the date: the 3rd of the month. Threes – that was it! He grabbed the paper and flipped it open to the racing section. Sure enough in the 3rd race, there was a horse named Trio! The fellow hurried to the bank, drew out his life savings and bet it all on the horse to win.

The horse ran third.

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“I want to have children, but my friends scare me. One of my friends told me she was in labor for thirty-six hours. I don’t even want to do anything that feels good for thirty-six hours.”

Rita Rudner

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Two friends, one an Optimist and the other a Pessimist could never quite agree on any topic of discussion.

One day the Optimist decided he had found a good way to pull his Pessimistic friend out of his way of continual Pessimistic way of thinking. The Optimist owned a huntin’ dog that could walk on water. His plan? Take the Pessimist and the dog out in a boat duck hunting.

This he did. They got out into the middle of the lake, and the Optimist shot down a duck…the dog immediately walked out across the water, retrieved the duck, and walked back to the boat.

The Optimist looked at his Pessimistic friend and said, “What do you think about that?”

The Pessimist replied, “That dog can’t swim, can he?”

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“And as ridiculous as it may sound, sometimes all any of us needs in life is for someone to hold our hand and walk next to us.”

James Frey

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Stay well, do good work, and have fun.

Ray Mitchell

Indianapolis, Indiana

Management is not responsible for duplicates from previous dailies. The editor is somewhat senile.

This daily is sent only to special people who want to start their day on an upbeat. If you have system overload because of our daily clutter, let me know and I will send you the information via mental telepathy. If you have not been getting our daily you can request to be added by e-mailing me at raykiwsp@gmail.com. Back issues are posted at http://raykiwsp.wordpress.com/ currently there are more than 2000 readers from around the world.

 

We need everybody

“We cannot solve our problems with the same level of thinking that created them”

Albert Einstein

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I had breakfast with an organizational development expert the other day where I heard about an enterprise that was struggling because there was a disconnect between their leadership and their employees. As I drove home I thought about a retired CEO that told me he had heard complaints from recent college graduates that the older generation would not get out of their way, as if they did not feel that they had to earn their leadership roles. On the other side of the coin I have seen many organization struggle these days as leaders sought to solve todays problems with yesterday’s solutions. Things are moving too fast to expect what worked yesterday will work tomorrow.

In my view the only solution lies in building a workplace environment that allows full participation in the problem solving effort. We need to combine the wisdom of the seasoned with the knowledge of the current generation. Here is a slightly edited article that I feel holds the answer for many of today’s struggling organizations.

 

You Can’t Solve Today’s Problems with Yesterday’s Solutions

by Ron Thomas

If you think of how change has come to our lives, especially with the advent of social media, everything is different. The organization and its people, however, are struggling as to how to keep pace. If leaders use the model of being at the center of the web, or if your organization puts its people first, these are innovations that would be unheard of in years past.

The old org chart is a thing of the past. The Scottish-American engineer Daniel McCallum is credited for creating the first organizational charts of American business around 1854. Based on that calculation, the org chart is approximately 158 years old. With project-based work, team approaches and virtual work, it almost makes the org chart obsolete.

Helping someone to get what they want

On the other hand, if you look at the concept of Employees First, Customers Second it notes that ”[EFCS] … turned the traditional management hierarchy upside down. The aim of EFCS was to create trust, to make managers as accountable to employees as employees were to their bosses, to transfer the responsibility for change and value creation to front-line employees working in the what they describe as the ‘value zone’ where HCL and its customers interact. Systems and processes were put in place designed to achieve these goals.”

Starbucks is another company that works with this concept. Even part-time employees get health insurance. Costco’s CEO recently said he was an advocate of the raising of the minimum wage. Both these organizations pay above average wages and have other initiatives that mirror the employee first philosophy. If you think of any organization that makes employer of choice or best places to work lists, you can see leadership from the web. You can also see the inverted pyramid.

In order to get what you want you have to help someone get what they want. That means that organizations must do whatever they can to help their collective group of employees get or achieve what they want. This model has a host of benefits — increased productivity, increased employee engagement, innovation and creativity. The derivative of this is the bottom line looks a lot stronger.

We are all in this together

Organizations of the future are going to need to adapt a new model of doing business. This is the era of “talent,” and that talent as a whole will not be mistreated in any way. They walk out every day and are not tied to anyone. Everyone within the organization has to buy into the concept of helping each other. It is not just leadership at the top; it is leadership from every corner of the organization. Team leader, project lead, VP or C-level — all must adhere to that new mindset.

No organization will survive, talent-wise, unless adjustments are made. There will always be adjustments made going forward; there is no one size fits all. You can’t duplicate another company’s culture no matter how hard you try. But, what you can do is pay close attention to your organizational culture, experiment, and make adjustments.

Whether you are leading from the web or putting your employees first, remember this: today’s issues cannot be solved with an Industrial Age mindset.

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People who work together will win, whether it be against complex football defenses, or the problems of modern society.

Vince Lombardi

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She said:

If you write in the dust, please don’t date it!

I would cook dinner but I can’t find the can opener!

My house was clean last week, too bad you missed it!

A clean kitchen is the sign of a wasted life.

COOK CAN’T TAKE IT ANYMORE!

I came, I saw, I decided to order take out.

If you don’t like my standards of cooking…lower your standards.

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The 50-50-90 Rule: Anytime you have a 50-50 chance of getting something right, there’s a 90% probability you’ll get it wrong.

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In the world of physics, we’ve all heard of the “Doppler Effect” which causes train whistles to sound higher in pitch as the train approaches and then sound lower in pitch as the train recedes. There is, however, a lesser-known effect called the “Dopeler Effect.” The Dopeler Effect is the tendency of stupid ideas to sound much smarter when they came at you quickly

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If at first you don’t succeed, you’ve failed again

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A pastor went out one Saturday to visit his church members.  At one house it was obvious that someone was home, but nobody came to the door even though the pastor had knocked several times.  Finally, the pastor took out his card and wrote “Revelations 3:20″ on the back of it, and stuck it in the door.

{Behold, I stand at the door and knock. If anyone hears my voice and opens the door, I will come in to him and dine with him and him with me.}

The next day, the card turned up in the collection plate.  Below the pastor’s message was the notation “Genesis 3:10″.

{I heard your voice in the garden, and I was afraid, because I was naked; and I hid myself.}

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I plead contemporary insanity.

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“My uncle in Detroit tried to make a new kind of car. He took the engine from a Ford, the transmission from an Oldsmobile, the tires from a Cadillac, and the exhaust system from a Plymouth.”

“Really? What did he get?”

“Fifteen years.”

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“Sometimes I get the feeling that the whole world is against me, but deep down I know that’s not true. Some of the smaller countries are neutral.”

Robert Orben

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“Leaders are problem solvers by talent and temperament, and by choice. For them, the new information environment—undermining old means of control, opening up old closets of secrecy, reducing the relevance of ownership, early arrival, and location—should seem less a litany of problems than an agenda for action. Reaching for a way to describe the entrepreneurial energy of his fabled editor Harold Ross, James Thurber said: ‘He was always leaning forward, pushing something invisible ahead of him.’ That’s the appropriate posture for a knowledge executive.”

Harlan Cleveland

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Stay well, do good work, and have fun.

Ray Mitchell

Indianapolis, Indiana

Management is not responsible for duplicates from previous dailies. The editor is somewhat senile.

This daily is sent only to special people who want to start their day on an upbeat. If you have system overload because of our daily clutter, let me know and I will send you the information via mental telepathy. If you have not been getting our daily you can request to be added by e-mailing me at raykiwsp@gmail.com. Back issues are posted at http://raykiwsp.wordpress.com/ currently there are more than 2000 readers from around the world.

 

Mason still needs us all

 Mason 2

Hi all, I do appreciate the many of you that have been following Mason’s fight for life. He needs every ones prayers. Here is an update from his Great Grand Father my good friend Ken.

Ray

Hey Ray,

Will you be able to distribute Mason’s recent update to your audience? We need all the prayer we can generate, this is a critical month for him.

Thanks for your help,

Ken

Below is the update sent after Mason’s 3rd chemo session. However he is now in his 4th session and subsequently will undergo a 10 hour surgery to remove a large intertwined tumor. (Further down is a copy of a recent email from my son which describes Mason’s condition in more detail. Jean and I did not know about a tumor. Our understanding was skeletal cancer throughout his body, similar to the bone marrow cancer my brother had).

THIRD CHEMO SESSION EMAIL

As you know our Great-grandson Mason was surprisingly diagnosed with stage 4 Cancer after only a fews weeks of minor illness. Thank you for all your prayers and good wishes for Mason’s recovery. The immediate family has just provided this update on Mason’s condition and express their thanks for everyone’s thoughts and prayers.

Mason just came home from the hospital after completing his second round  of Chemo, He will be home for 2 week and than go back in for his 3rd session. He has responded well to the treatment in regards to it not making him real sick and his spirits are good. We really won’t know any real progress on the tumor for a while as we all know this is a long slow process.

Again we are thankful for everyone’s thoughts and prayers for Mason and in recognition that September is Childhood Cancer Awareness month lets include a prayer for a Cure for this disease.

We will keep you posted on Mason’s condition after each Chemo session is complete.

God Bless you all.

DESCRIPTION OF MASON’S CONDITION

Here is a quick overview of what Mason is battling. Neuroblastoma is a rare disease in which a solid tumor (a lump or mass caused by uncontrolled or abnormal cell growth) is formed by special nerve cells called neuroblasts. Normally, these immature cells grow and mature into functioning nerve cells. But in neuroblastoma, they become cancer cells instead.

Neuroblastoma most commonly starts in the tissue of the adrenal glands, the triangular glands on top of the kidneys that produce hormones responsible for controlling heart rate, blood pressure, and other important functions. Like other cancers, neuroblastoma can spread (metastasize) to other parts of the body, such as the lymph nodes, skin, liver, and bones

In Mason’s case the tumor is quite large (about watermelon size) and that grown around and entangled several organ within his abdominal cavity. After his 4th round of chemo they will work to remove this mass.

Thanks

Robert

Fear keeps us focused on the past or worried about the future. If we can acknowledge our fear, we can realize that right now we are okay. Right now, today, we are still alive, and our bodies are working marvelously. Our eyes can still see the beautiful sky. Our ears can still hear the voices of our loved ones.

Thich Nhat Hanh

 afraid

Here we are another Friday. This morning I will have my last Cardiac Rehabilitation session for the week and then meet with one of the good guys. He is a relatively new friend that is considering offering his wisdom and his concern for others to help our community better serve the over 50 crowd. I enjoy visiting with him and appreciate the way he thinks and since I am way over 50 I have a special interest in what he does.

Because I have to go soon I am sending you the Daily I published on this day thirteen years ago.

 October 17, 2001

I had a great day yesterday at Cypress Gardens, if you are ever in Central Florida stop by, I think you will be glad you did. It is more oriented to adults but I think kids would enjoy it as well.

Speaking of kids. These are truly difficult times for us all, especially the children. It is important that we do not let the news of the day and our reactions frighten and traumatize them.

We adults have the ability to put things into perspective as it relates to the potential for any one of us suffering personal injury from what is going on. We know that more than 150 people are killed in auto accidents everyday, and thousands more are injured. Those of us who are older have lived through a World War when none of us were sure that the war would not reach our shores. We remember polio epidemics that resulted in beaches, movie theatres, and more being closed at times during our summer school vacation.

Unfortunately kids don’t have the mental defenses that we have built based on our experiences. I believe it is important to let them know they are safe. We must not let any fears we may have spill over into their lives. We should avoid canceling that planned vacation. We should continue to take our kids to the places that we would of before September 11th. I am not suggesting that we try to hide the facts from children, which would be impossible; I am only suggesting that we let them know they are safe by our words and our actions.

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Anyone can hold the helm when the sea is calm.

Publilius Syrus

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She defines the following as:

Argument (ar*gyou*ment) n. — A discussion that occurs when you’re right, but he just hasn’t realized it yet.

Airhead (er*hed) n. — What a woman intentionally becomes when pulled over by a policeman.

Bar-be-que (bar*bi*q) n. — You bought the groceries, washed the lettuce, chopped the tomatoes, diced the onions, marinated the meat, and cleaned everything up, but he “made the dinner”.

Cantaloupe (kant*e*lope) n. — Gotta get married in a church.

Childbirth (child*brth) n. — You get to go through 36 hours of contractions; he gets to hold your hand and say “focus…breathe….push….”

Clothes dryer (kloze dri*yer) n. — An appliance designed to eat socks.

Diet Soda (dy*it so*da) n. — A drink you buy at a convenience store to go with a half pound bag of peanut M&M’s.

Eternity (e*ter*ni*tee) n. — The last two minutes of a football game.

Exercise (ex*er*siz) v. — To walk up and down a mall, occasionally resting to make a purchase.

Grocery list (grow*ser*ee list) n. — What you spend half an hour writing, then forget to take with you to the store.

Hair Dresser (hare dres*er) n. — Someone who is able to create a style you will never be able to duplicate again. See “Magician”.

Hardware Store (hard*war stor) n. — Similar to a black hole in space: if he goes in, he isn’t coming out anytime soon.

Lipstick (lip*stik) n. — On your lips, coloring to enhance the beauty of your mouth. On his collar, coloring only a tramp would wear…!

Park (park) v./n. — Before children, a verb meaning “to go somewhere and neck.” After children, a noun meaning a place with a swing set and slide.

Patience (pa*shens) n. — The most important ingredient for dating, marriage, and children. See also “tranquilizers”.

Valentine’s Day (val*en*tinez dae) n. — A day when you have dreams of a candlelight dinner, diamonds, and romance, but consider yourself lucky to get a card.

Waterproof Mascara (wah*tr*pruf mas*kar*ah) n. — Comes off if you cry, shower, or swim, but will not come off if you try to remove it.

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First you forget names, then you forget faces, then you forget to pull your zipper up, then you forget to pull your zipper down.

Leo Rosenburg

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A 4-year-old boy who was asked to return thanks before Christmas dinner. The family members bowed their heads in expectation. He began his prayer, thanking God for all his friends, naming them one by one. Then he thanked God for Mommy, Daddy, brother, sister, Grandma, Grandpa, and all his aunts and uncles. Then he began to thank God for the food.

He gave thanks for the turkey, the dressing, the fruit salad, the cranberry sauce, the pies, the cakes, even the Cool Whip. Then he paused, and everyone waited–and waited. After a long silence, the young fellow looked up at his mother and asked, “If I thank God for the broccoli, won’t he know that I’m lying?”

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How many roads must a man travel down before he admits he is lost?

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A big city California lawyer went duck hunting in rural Texas. He shot and dropped a bird, but it fell into a farmer’s field on the other side of a fence.

As the lawyer climbed over the fence, an elderly farmer drove up on his tractor and asked him what he was doing. The litigator responded, “I shot a duck and it fell in this field, and now I’m going into retrieve it.”

The old farmer replied. “This is my property, and you are not coming over here.”

The indignant lawyer said, “I am one of the best trial attorneys in the U.S. and, if you don’t let me get that duck, I’ll sue you and take everything you own.”

The old farmer smiled and said, “Apparently, you don’t know how we do things in Texas. We settle small disagreements like this with the Texas Three Kick Rule.”

The lawyer asked, “What is the Texas Three Kick Rule?”

The Farmer replied. “Well, first I kick you three times and then you kick me three times, and so on, back and forth, until someone gives up.”

The attorney quickly thought about the proposed contest and decided that he could easily take the old codger. He agreed to abide by the local custom.

The old farmer slowly climbed down from the tractor and walked up to the city feller. His first kick planted the toe of his heavy work boot into the lawyer’s groin and dropped him to his knees. His second kick nearly ripped the man’s nose off his face. The barrister was flat on his belly when the farmer’s third kick to a kidney nearly caused him to give up.

The lawyer summoned every bit of his will and managed to get to his feet and said, “Okay, you old coot now it’s my turn.”

The old farmer smiled and said, “Naw, I give up. You can have the duck.”

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Don’t be sexist — broads hate that.

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A family was visiting an Indian reservation when they happen upon an old tribesman laying face down in the middle of the road with his ear pressed firmly against the blacktop. The father of the family asked the old tribesman what he was doing. The tribesman began to speak… “woman, late thirties, three kids, one barking dog in late model, Four door station wagon, traveling at 65 m.p.h.”

“That’s amazing” exclaimed the father.

“You can tell all of that by just listening to the ground”?

“No”, said the old tribesman. “They just ran over me five minutes ago!”

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“You cannot do a kindness too soon because you never know how soon it will be too late.”

Ralph Waldo Emerson

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Stay well, do good work, and have fun.

Ray Mitchell

Indianapolis, Indiana

Management is not responsible for duplicates from previous dailies. The editor is somewhat senile.

This daily is sent only to special people who want to start their day on an upbeat. If you have system overload because of our daily clutter, let me know and I will send you the information via mental telepathy. If you have not been getting our daily you can request to be added by e-mailing me at raykiwsp@gmail.com. Back issues are posted at http://raykiwsp.wordpress.com/ currently there are more than 2000 readers from around the world.

 

No one can make you feel inferior without your consent”

Eleanor Roosevelt

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I have often said that I meet many people who don’t realize how good they are. I think that often this is because they do not think well enough of themselves. They concentrate on their missteps while taking for granted the good things they do every day. A high level of self-criticism is sure to prevent a person from having a positive future. I suggest to some of the folks I work with that they log what they do every day and then they will see the value of their efforts. Here is an edited article that can help those who don’t see their real self.

 How to Smack Down Your Inner Critic Once and For All

by Ash Roy

Do you have an inner critic that taunts you every time you trip up? You know, that taunting voice that erupts the second you make a mistake? You don’t know when it started, but for as long as you can remember it’s been with you, waiting for the slightest opportunity to launch its next attack. And while you suspect its intentions are positive — to protect you from failures — in practice all it does is make things worse.

Favorite taunts of the ruthless inner critic

I’ve been absent-minded for as long as I can remember. I have difficulty focusing on one thing for long, which often leads to silly mistakes. Like losing things. And this is where that inner critic jumps in. “How could you be so careless?” “Will you ever learn?” “How could you be so irresponsible?”

This incessant voice was truly bringing me down. It was eroding my self-esteem. Every time I forgot something, it would nag me to the point of paralysis, unable to remedy the situation. Things came to a head and I decided that I had to find a solution. I had to silence this inner critic once and for all.

At first I tried addressing the tendency to be absent-minded by creating lists using the Getting Things Done approach. This helped me get more organized but didn’t silence the harsh critic when I did forget things albeit less frequently.

After a bit of research, I discovered that cultivating a mindfulness practice was very powerful. I think of it as meditation in action. This turned out to be the answer I was looking for.

Mindfulness — an antidote to the chattering monkey mind?

Mindfulness is a psychological concept. It can be defined as being consistently attentive and aware of one’s mental patterns in a non-judgmental manner. By using the breath as an anchor the practitioner is able to step back and ‘watch’ her thoughts without identifying with them. Every time she becomes aware that her mind has run away with her thoughts, she consistently and gently brings her focus back to her breath and resumes watching the thoughts without identifying with them. One of the benefits of a mindfulness practice is the capacity it creates in the mind of the practitioner to objectively observe, and then change deeply ingrained mental patterns.

My first big test of my mindfulness practice

A few months after starting my mindfulness practice, I found myself on a familiar mental roller coaster. My mind had been particularly unruly that morning. The usual tirade of thoughts filled with self-blame and shame ensued. The panic-driven questions seemed so reminiscent of my (well intentioned) caregivers from during my growing years. As the barrage continued my morale dropped.

At this point something interesting happened. My mindfulness practice came to the rescue Instead of slumping into my usual state of paralysis.

My attention came back to my breath. The destructive thinking continued to play itself out as I watched.

I chose not to react. Instead I objectively watched my thoughts play out the painful cycle of self-blame.

This act of objectively watching showed me that I had a choice not to react. Not to believe the thoughts like I had in the past. Instead I could choose to just let them pass across my mind like clouds moving across the sky. I made the obvious choice. I didn’t buy into the destructive thoughts.

The following are some specific ways in which mindfulness will vanquish your inner critic – once and for all.

  1. A strong mindfulness practice can bring destructive thought patterns out into the open. Cultivating the capacity to ‘watch’ these destructive thought patterns means you can choose not to be victimized by them. Instead, you can take constructive action.
  2. If you watch your mind consistently, using your breath as an anchor, you will start to see your mind’s workings with greater clarity over time. You won’t be a victim of destructive thinking and will make better choices that lead to constructive action.

       3.  You don’t need to either push the thoughts away or indulge them. You just watch them as they work through their ‘life cycle’.  The act of watching is extremely powerful.

Do you have an inner critic? Does it berate you and undermine you, often without you realizing it? If you do, then just stop. And listen to your thoughts.

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“The moment you doubt whether you can fly, you cease for ever to be able to do it.”

J.M. Barrie

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A meat counter clerk, who had had a particularly good day, proudly flipped his last chicken on a scale and weighed it.

“That will be $6.35,” he told the customer.

“That really is a little too small,” said the woman. “Don’t you have anything larger?”

Hesitating but thinking fast, the clerk returned the chicken to the refrigerator, paused a moment, then took it out again. “This one,” he said faintly, “will be $6.65.”

The woman paused for a moment, then made her decision.

“I know what,” she said, “I’ll take both of them!”

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“Some people believe that holding on and hanging in there are signs of great strength. However, there are times when it takes much more strength to know when to let go –  and then do it.”

Ann Landers

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Flying home after visiting her daughter in England, she arranged to have her husband meet her plane at the Vancouver, B.C. airport.  This meant a stop at the border crossing between the United States and Canada, where her husband was asked: “What is your reason for entering the country?” and “How long are you planning to stay?”

He replied that he was picking his wife up at the airport after her trip to England.

Without missing a beat, the guard asked two more questions in the same businesslike tone: “Is the house clean?”  And, “Are there fresh flowers on the table?”

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Don’t worry about avoiding temptation.  As you grow older, it will avoid you.

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A bishop discovered a tribe of Indians in the Yukon who had never recorded a baptism, confirmation or marriage.  The bishop soon rectified the situation by baptizing everyone. He also married every beaming couple that walked by. Later, the tribal chief told the Bishop the tribe had never had so much fun. The bishop asked the chief which part they enjoyed the most.

“The marriage service,” the chief said, smiling, “We all got new wives!”

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“The word ‘aerobics’ came about when the gym instructors got together and said: If we’re going to charge $10 an hour, we can’t call it Jumping up and down.”

Rita Rudner

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Molly was worried that her three-year-old son was unusually precocious, and took him to a psychiatrist. “Right,” said the shrink, “We’ll just try a few simple tests.” To Morris the boy, he said “Say a few words – anything that comes into your mind.” The boy turned to his mother and asked, “Does he want logically constructed sentences or just a few random and purely isolated words without any split infinitives?”

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“As soon as you trust yourself, you will know how to live.”

Johann Wolfgang von Goethe

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Stay well, do good work, and have fun.

Ray Mitchell

Indianapolis, Indiana

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Do you see what I see?

It’s not what you look at that matters, it’s what you see.

Henry David Thoreau

 Look around you

There was a time when I felt that adventure and new experiences only existed across the horizon. You see I was taken my surroundings for granted and never opened my eyes to what was all around me. Happily a byproduct of retiring has been the discovery of some great things to do and to see right here at home. When I was involved with a lot nationally and globally my focus was often on the world outside of where I lived.

Once there was little demand for me to stay involved with my past activities I discovered that there was a welcoming community right here in Indiana that provided me with lots of opportunities to enjoy my days while often helping others. I almost became a tourist in my home town as I became an avid fan of our theatrical community, our rich cultural intuitions, the varied learning opportunities and most of all the friendly people of Central Indiana.

An article from my friends at Positively Present that reminded me of what we have always just waiting to be discovered. Here is an edited version of the article:

 HOW TO MAKE YOUR ROAD WELL TRAVELED

Of course, it’s much easier to discover new things when you’re in a new place. New things capture our attention so well. But creating a well traveled road on a path you venture down every day is much more difficult. Whether your travels lead you across the globe or just across town,  here are some tips for how to make the journey worthwhile.

NOTICE THE LITTLE THINGS.

You’ve certainly heard the phrase “stop and smell the roses” before, but have you really done it. In order to smell the roses, you first have to notice them. As we travel through out daily routines, we don’t often pay attention to what’s all around us. We believe we’ve seen it all before and don’t make much of an effort to look around. But things are always, always changing and there are so many little things that can spark inspiration along the road (no matter how frequently you travel it!). The littlest things can spark fascinating thoughts.

FIND UNEXPECTED BEAUTY.

No matter where you travel, there is beauty. It can be found everywhere, even in the most unexpected places. The trick to finding it? Look. Usually we’re so busy trying to get from here to there that we don’t pay attention to little bits of beauty all around us. When driving to work, pay attention to the trees and the way their leaves change. Beauty can be found in more than just things. The more you notice beautiful things as you travel through your day, the brighter your day will become.

PICK A SENSE + FOCUS ON IT.

The five senses are some of the best tools for staying present, and they can be particularly useful for creating a road well traveled. Next time you travel, choose a sense (sight, sound, taste, touch, or smell) and pay close attention to it as you’re on the road. (If you’re driving, sight or sound probably works best.) Listen to the birds, the car horns, the wind, the sound of your own breath. Drawing your attention to one specific sense is an amazing way not only to keep yourself focused on the present, but it’s also a great way to discover new things or things that have always been there but that you’ve never stopped to notice before.

DO SOMETHING DIFFERENT.

If you can take a different road to get from where you are to where you want be, that can be a great way to make your travels more interesting. Even if it’s longer, a detour can lead you to new inspiration. If there’s only one road to take, you switch up the way you travel. Take the bus instead of driving. If it’s not far, walk instead of driving. Doing something different is not only good for new discoveries, but it’s also a great way to reflect on the way you always travel and take note of what you do and don’t prefer.

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One way to get the most out of life is to look upon it as an adventure.

William Feather

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Great Truths About Growing Old

1)  Growing old is mandatory; growing up is optional.

2)  Insanity is my only means of relaxation.

3)  Forget the health food. I need all the preservatives I can get.

4)  You know you are getting old when you stoop to tie your shoes and wonder what else you can do while you are down there.

5)  You are getting old when you get the same sensation from a rocking chair that you once got from a roller coaster.

6)  Perhaps you know why women over fifty do not have babies: They would put them down somewhere and forget where they left them.

7)  One of  life’s mysteries is how a two pound box of candy can make a person gain five pounds.

8)  Every time I think about exercise, I lie down until the thought goes away.

9)  God put me on earth to accomplish a certain number of things.  Right now I am so far behind, I will live forever.

10) It is frustrating when you know all the answers, but nobody bothers to ask you the questions.

11) I finally got my head together, and my body fell apart.

12) There cannot be a crisis this week; my schedule is already full.

13) Time may be a great healer, but it is also a lousy beautician.

14) The older you get, the tougher it is to lose weight, because by then your body and your fat are really good friends.

15) Age does not always bring wisdom.  Sometimes age comes alone.

16) Just when I was getting used to yesterday, along came today.

17) Sometimes I think I understand everything, then I regain consciousness.

18) Amazing! You just hang something in your closet for a while, and it shrinks two sizes.

19) It is bad to suppress laughter; it goes back down and spreads to your hips.

20) Freedom of the press means no-iron clothes.

21) Inside some of us is a thin person struggling to get out, but they can usually be sedated with a few pieces of chocolate cake.

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“My boyfriend and I broke up. He wanted to get married and I didn’t want him to.”

Rita Rudner

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Two nuns where driving down the road in Transylvania and a Werewolf jumped on the hood. the old nun said; “I’ee look at that ugly thing, shake the car and knock him off.”

The young nun turned the wheel from side to side but he didn’t fall off. “Slam on the brakes, surely that ‘ill knock him off,” said the old nun.

She slammed on the brakes, but he still didn’t fall off.

“We’ll fix ‘em,” said the old nun, show him your cross.”

The young nun rolled down the window, stuck her head out and yelled; “Get off me friggin’ ‘ood ya’ ugly bastard.”

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George Washington’s brother was the uncle of our country.

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Some tourists in the Chicago Museum of Natural History are marveling at the dinosaur bones. One of them asks the guard,

“Can you tell me how old the dinosaur bones are?”

The guard replies, “They are 3 million, four years, and six months old.”

“That’s an awfully exact number,” says the tourist. “How do you know their age so precisely?”

The guard answers, “Well, the dinosaur bones were three million years old when I started working here, and that was four and a half years ago.”

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If you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change.

Wayne Dyer

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Stay well, do good work, and have fun.

Ray Mitchell

Indianapolis, Indiana

Management is not responsible for duplicates from previous dailies. The editor is somewhat senile.

This daily is sent only to special people who want to start their day on an upbeat. If you have system overload because of our daily clutter, let me know and I will send you the information via mental telepathy. If you have not been getting our daily you can request to be added by e-mailing me at raykiwsp@gmail.com. Back issues are posted at http://raykiwsp.wordpress.com/ currently there are more than 2000 readers from around the world.

 

Each difficult moment has the potential to open my eyes and open my heart.

Myla Kabat-Zinn

 helping hand

Over the years I have met many people from varying backgrounds who have been folks that I was glad I knew. When I was a kid there were boys I knew who were really difficult, some even went to jail later in life. Part of my early years was spent in a year around boarding school for kids from broken homes, we were allowed to go home one week a year. We ran a farm, raised most of own food and lived in dormitories in cottages where we had to get along.

Many of my fellow students had a lot of aggression to overcome, some never did. The good news was that some of the boys had their first experience with caring adults and that changed their behavior.

To this day I have a special place in my heart for young people who make good in spite of all they have had to overcome. I have found that those that do make it care for others while so many who have had it easy think mainly about themselves.

I know that it was the special people who have taken an interest in me over my lifetime that has made my great life possible. I truly have benefited from their gift of friendship and kindness.

I have always liked the message in the following story for it reminds me of those whose hearts made such a difference so many years ago.

 A Special Teacher

Years ago a John Hopkin’s professor gave a group of graduate students this assignment: Go to the slums. Take 200 boys, between the ages of 12 and 16, and investigate their background and environment. Then predict their chances for the future. The students, after consulting social statistics, talking to the boys, and compiling much data, concluded that 90 percent of the boys would spend some time in jail.

Twenty-five years later another group of graduate students was given the job of testing the prediction. They went back to the same area. Some of the boys – by then men – were still there, a few had died, some had moved away, but they got in touch with 180 of the original 200. They found that only four of the group had ever been sent to jail.

Why was it that these men, who had lived in a breeding place of crime, had such a surprisingly good record? The researchers were continually told: “Well, there was a teacher…” They pressed further, and found that in 75 percent of the cases it was the same woman.

The researchers went to this teacher, now living in a home for retired teachers. How had she exerted this remarkable influence over that group of children? Could she give them any reason why these boys should have remembered her? “No,” she said, “no I really couldn’t.” And then, thinking back over the years, she said amusingly, more to herself than to her questioners: “I loved those boys…”

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My values, our values, aren’t about pointing fingers. They are about offering a helping hand.

Kathleen Blanco

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Top Ten Reasons Why It’s Great To Be A Dog

  1. If it itches, you can reach it, no matter where it itches.
  2. No one notices if you have hair growing in weird places as you get older.
  3. Personal hygiene is a blast: No one expects you to take a bath every day, and you don’t even have to comb your own hair.
  4. Having a wet nose is considered a sign of good health.
  5. No one thinks less of you for burping. Some people might actually think you’re cute.
  6. Who needs a big home entertainment system? A bone or an old shoe can entertain you for hours.
  7. You can spend hours just smelling stuff.
  8. No one ever expects you to pay for lunch or dinner. You never have to worry about table manners, and if you gain weight, it’s someone else’s fault.
  9. It doesn’t take much to make you happy. You’re always excited to see the same old people. All they have to do is leave the room for five minutes and come back.
  10. Every garbage can looks like a cold buffet to you.

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Married life is very frustrating.  In the first year of marriage, the man speaks and the woman listens.  In the second year, the woman speaks and the man listens.  In the third year, they both speak and the neighbors listen.

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The psychiatrist was not expecting the distraught stranger who staggered into his office and slumped into a chair. “You’ve got to help me. I’m losing my memory, Doctor,” he sobbed. “I once had a successful business, a wife, home and family; I was a respected member of the community.  But all that’s gone now. Since my memory began failing, I’ve lost the business – I couldn’t remember my clients’ names. My wife and children have left me, too; and why shouldn’t they – some nights I wouldn’t get home until four or five in the morning. I’d forget where I lived…And it’s getting worse. Doctor – it’s getting worse!”

“This is not an unusual form of neurosis,” the psychiatrist said soothingly. “Now tell me, just how long ago did you first become aware of this condition?”

“Condition?” The man sat up in his chair. “What condition?”

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Doing a job RIGHT the first time gets the job done. Doing the job WRONG fourteen times gives you job security.

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While traveling in Quebec, my father complained that all the street signs were in French. His comments and sarcasm went on and on.

Then after passing a billboard for a restaurant that featured filet mignon, he belted out, “Finally! Something in English!”

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“Conway’s Law” In any organization there is one person who knows what is going on. That person must be fired.

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When I go to casinos, the most ridiculous sign I see is the one that says………”If you have a gambling problem, call 1-800-GAMBLER.”

So, I call them and say, “I have an ace and a six. The dealer has a seven. What do I do?”

~~~

A person’s most useful asset is not the head full of knowledge, but a heart full of love, an ear ready to listen, and a hand willing to help.

Author Unknown

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Stay well, do good work, and have fun.

Ray Mitchell

Indianapolis, Indiana

Management is not responsible for duplicates from previous dailies. The editor is somewhat senile.

This daily is sent only to special people who want to start their day on an upbeat. If you have system overload because of our daily clutter, let me know and I will send you the information via mental telepathy. If you have not been getting our daily you can request to be added by e-mailing me at raykiwsp@gmail.com. Back issues are posted at http://raykiwsp.wordpress.com/ currently there are more than 2000 readers from around the world.

 

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