“Judge a man by his questions rather than by his answers.”
I wonder sometimes how many roadblocks we throw up that keep us from a happier life. Some of us seem to be so self-critical that we lose our confidence and start to stagnate. As I have said before I am shocked at how many people don’t realize just how good they are. I wish more would take inventory at the end of the day to note the positive moments their day held.
Taking a moment to be pleasant with someone else is as important as most things we do and we should appreciate those moments. An unselfish act counts too. Also what about those tasks we complete that may not seem like much, but they are, they are jobs well done.
Don’t let your mind hold you back, there is a lot of life to live yet and you can make it special if you set yourself free. Angel Chernoff wrote a piece a while ago that she titled Questions that Will Free Your Mind and Turn Your Life Around. It is far too long to reprint here but I am sharing some parts that I especially like. Here is what she wrote:
Questions that Will Free Your Mind and Turn Your Life Around
It’s not the answers you get from others, but the questions you ask yourself that will help you grow stronger. In fact, the simple questions you ask yourself on a daily basis will determine the type of person you become in the long run.
Keep in mind that these questions have no right or wrong answers…Because sometimes asking the right questions IS the answer.
- If you had a friend who spoke to you in the same way that you sometimes speak to yourself, how long would you allow this person to be your friend?
Remember, the way you treat yourself sets the standard for others. You must love who you are or no one else will. So treat yourself the way you want others to treat you. Stop discrediting yourself for everything you aren’t, and start giving yourself credit for everything you ARE. We have to learn to be our own best friends, because sometimes we fall too easily into the trap of being our own worst enemies.
- If today were the last day of your life, would you want to do what you are about to do today?
Think long and hard. And when your answer is NO for too many days in a row, you know it’s time for a change.
And this is an interesting conversation, because we are all aware deep down that life is short, and that death will happen to every one of us eventually, and yet we are infinitely surprised when it happens to someone we know. It’s like walking up a flight of stairs with a distracted mind, and misjudging the final step. You expected there to be one more stair than there is, and so you find yourself off balance for a moment, before your mind shifts back to reality and how the world really is.
You’ve got to take that step. Because sadly, there are far too many people who live their entire lives on the default settings, never realizing they can customize absolutely everything. Don’t be one of them! You have to live your own life your own way. That’s all there is to it. Each of us has a unique fire in our heart for something that makes us feel alive. It’s your duty to find it and keep it lit. You’ve got to stop caring so much about what everyone else wants for you, and start actually living for yourself.
- What are you holding on to that you need to let go of?
It happens to you slowly as you grow. You discover more about who you are and what you want, and then you realize that there are changes you need to make. The lifestyle you’ve been living no longer fits. The people you’ve known forever no longer see things the way you do. So you cherish all the great memories, but find yourself in desperate need of moving on.
Some things simply are NOT meant to be. Everything from your past does not belong in your present. To hold on to relationships and circumstances that have already moved on without you, is to stay stuck in a place and time that no longer exists. Moving on doesn’t mean you erase or completely forget the wonderful things from your past, it just means that you find a positive way of surviving without them in your present.
Your destiny is to fulfill those things upon which you focus most intently. So choose to keep your focus on that which is truly magnificent, beautiful, uplifting and joyful. Your life is always moving toward something.
A man was going up to bed, when his wife told him he’d left the light on in the garden shed – she could see it from the bedroom window. But he said that he hadn’t been in the shed that day. He looked himself, and there were people in the shed, stealing things. He rang the police, but they told him that no-one was in his area, so no-one was available to catch the thieves. He said ok, hung up, counted to 30 and rang the police again.
“Hello. I just rang you a few seconds ago because there were people in my shed? Well, you don’t have to worry about them now, I’ve just shot them all.”
Within five minutes there were half a dozen police cars in the area, an Armed Response unit, the works. Of course, they caught the burglars red-handed. One of the policemen said to this man: “I thought you said you’d shot them!”
He replied: “I thought you said there was no-one available!”
“We learn more by looking for the answer to a question and not finding it than we do from learning the answer itself.”
A young man is reported to have approached the renowned composer Wolfgang Amadeus Mozart (one of the great musical prodigies of all time), and asked, “Herr Mozart, I have the ambition to write symphonies and perhaps you can advise me how to get started.”
Mozart said, “The best advice I can give you is to wait until you are older and more experienced, and try your hand at less ambitious pieces to begin with.”
The young man looked astonished. “But, Herr Mozart, you yourself wrote symphonies when you were considerably younger than I.”
“Ah,” said Mozart, “but I did so without asking advice.”
Teacher: “Remember, Class — Nothing Is Impossible.”
Melissa: “What about squeezing all the toothpaste out of the tube and putting it back in again?”
The Minister, after listening to an impromptu campaign speech, “Before I vote for you for sheriff, I’d like to know if you partake of intoxicating beverages?”
Candidate for sheriff, “Before I answer, tell me if this is an inquiry or an invitation.”
Success in life comes not from holding a good hand, but in playing a poor hand well.
On a street, where the speed is limited to 30 mph the police stop a driver.
“Not only have you been driving too fast, you’ve been passing cars where it is not allowed. Your lights don’t work, your tires all completely worn out. This is surely going to cost you a lot. What’s your name?”
“Schtrathewisizeski Vocgefastilongchinic”, replied the foreign driver.
“Well, I’ll let you go this time but don’t do it again.”
The comfort zone is the great enemy to creativity; moving beyond it necessitates intuition, which in turn configures new perspectives and conquers fears.
Stay well, do good work, and have fun.
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