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The best feeling in the world is realizing that you’re perfectly happy without the thing you thought you needed.

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As I sat with friends yesterday I complimented one of them on his lifestyle choices. You see my friend works nights for Federal Express on a labor intensive job that provides him a reasonable income and benefits. He was a senior corporate executive in the past; you know one of those jobs filled by people who covet the medals awarded to folks for doing what they don’t like to do. My friend decided, like Henry David Thoreau, that he preferred his own version of Walden Pond. He now spends his days doing humanitarian work, having fun with grandchildren and doing things meaningful to him. Others may not see how successful in life he really is but I do. His wealth is in his self-satisfaction and my community wins because of his choices.

I recently received a piece written by Angel Chernoff where she shared her thoughts on personal happiness; here in part are her thoughts:

Are you happy?

It is our CHOICES that show what we truly are, far more than our abilities. You know this is true. So… I want to ask you a simple question: Are you happy? If you answered “no,” then I want to ask you another question: Do you feel you deserve happiness?

Heartache can get the better of us. Struggles—with our work, in our family, in pursuit of our dreams—can weigh us down and trick us into thinking that we aren’t worthy of true happiness.

Happiness is a course of action, a way of being, a mindset as well as a method. True happiness results from the ongoing commitment to making positive choices. These choices need not be complicated. Here are two simple changes you can begin today.

Treat Yourself with Kindness

We all make mistakes. It’s part of being human. In the wake of such mistakes, however, there’s a shocking difference between how we treat ourselves versus how we treat those we love.

The next time you make a mistake, I want you to listen to the way you talk to yourself. What words do you use? Does any of it sound like this? “You are so stupid! What were you thinking? You screw this up every time!” This is the clean version; I know many of us use harsher words—even profanity—with ourselves.

Now picture a person whom you love dearly—your spouse, your mother, perhaps your best friend. If she came to you and admitted to making a mistake, what language would you use? Would your words be ones of anger, or would they be words of kindness?

It’s easy to overlook the effects of our own negative self-talk, but over time these harsh words erode our confidence and eat away at our happiness. The next time you make a mistake, be mindful to treat yourself as you would treat your loved ones. Interrupt your automatic negative thoughts, replacing “You are so stupid,” with “You are going to be okay.”

Take Time for Gratitude

Research by positive psychologists has found a clear link between gratitude and happiness. People who take time each day to express gratitude live happier lives—but in the busyness of our day, it can be easy to forget to take the time. Here’s a great trick that will help you remember to make gratitude a daily practice: do it while you brush your teeth.It sounds silly, I know—but it works. As you pick up your toothbrush, say to yourself, “Today, I feel grateful for…” and as you brush, think of as many things as you can.

“Today, I feel grateful for my morning workout.”

“Today, I feel grateful for the chance to meet with this new client.”

“Today, I feel grateful that my kid passed his math test.”

“Today, I feel grateful that my mom and I talked without fighting.”

Nothing is too simple to make the list. The longer you practice expressing gratitude, the faster examples will pop into your mind. And as a bonus, you’ll spend more time brushing your teeth!


“To be kind to all, to like many and love a few, to be needed and wanted by those we love, is certainly the nearest we can come to happiness.”

Mary Stuart


A young attorney who had taken over his father’s practice rushed home elated one night. “Dad, listen,” he shouted, “I’ve finally settled that old McKinney suit.”

“Settled it!?!” cried his astonished father. “Why, I gave that to you as an annuity for life.”


“Kissing is a means of getting two people so close together that they can’t see anything wrong with each other.”

Rene Yasenek


A manager has to take on some sport by his doctor so he decides to play tennis. After a couple of weeks his secretary asks him how he’s doing. “It’s going fine”, the manager says, “When I’m on the court and I see the ball speeding towards me my brain immediately says: To the corner! Back hand! To the net! Smash! Go back!”

“Really? What happens then?” the girl asks enthusiastic.

“Then my body says: Who? Me? Don’t talk nonsense!”


Too many people miss the silver lining because they’re expecting gold.

Maurice Setter


What does love mean?”

A group of professional people posed this question to a group of 4 to 8-year-olds, “What does love mean?” The answers they got were broader and deeper than anyone could have imagined. See what you think:

“Love is when a girl puts on perfume and a boy puts on shaving cologne and they go out and smell each other.” Karl – age 5

“Love is when you go out to eat and give somebody most of your French fries without making them give you any of theirs.” Chrissy – age 6

“Love is what makes you smile when you’re tired.” Terri – age 4

“Love is when my mommy makes coffee for my daddy and she takes a sip before giving it to him, to make sure the taste is OK.” Danny – age 7

“Love is like a little old woman and a little old man who are still friends even after they know each other so well.” Tommy – age 6


“John, I can see that all your buttons are sewed on perfectly. You must be married!”

“That’s right. Sewing on buttons was the first thing my wife taught me on our honeymoon.”


Congratulating a friend after her son and daughter got married within a month of each other, a woman asked, “What kind of boy did your daughter marry?”

“Oh, he’s wonderful,” gushed the mother. “He lets her sleep late, wants her to go to the beauty parlor regularly, and insists on taking her out to dinner every night.”

“That’s nice,” said the woman. “What about your son?”

“I’m not so happy about that,” the mother sighed. “His wife sleeps late, spends all her time in the beauty parlor, and makes them eat take-out meals!”


“Don’t rely on someone else for your happiness and self-worth. Only you can be responsible for that. If you can’t love and respect yourself – no one else will be able to make that happen. Accept who you are – completely; the good and the bad – and make changes as YOU see fit – not because you think someone else wants you to be different.”

Stacey Charter


Stay well, do good work, and have fun.

Ray Mitchell

Indianapolis, Indiana

Management is not responsible for duplicates from previous dailies. The editor is somewhat senile.

This daily is sent only to special people who want to start their day on an upbeat. If you have system overload because of our daily clutter, let me know and I will send you the information via mental telepathy. If you have not been getting our daily you can request to be added by e-mailing me at raykiwsp@gmail.com. Back issues are posted at http://raykiwsp.wordpress.com/ currently there are more than 2000 readers from around the world.


Make today a great one

One of the most tragic things I know about human nature is that all of us tend to put off living. We are all dreaming of some magical rose garden over the horizon–instead of enjoying the roses that are blooming outside our windows today.

Dale Carnegie


Sorry everyone but I am running late today and have a full schedule. So we again will visit yesteryear and see what my world looked like then. Here is my Daily published on this day six years ago.



Ray’s Daily

October 23, 2008

 If there was ever a time when I feel we should heed Carnegie’s advice it is now. It seems that each day we get another dose of bad news. For some of us it is the loss of a friend or family member, the loss of our home or major erosion of our life savings becomes the most devastating event we have ever had to face. Those of us who are experiencing the greatest challenges in our lifetime are faced with a choice. We can let our problems take us down or we can chose to alter our behavior.

It is easy to fall into depression when we no longer do what we use to do and far too many just stop, feel sorry for themselves and spend their days using all their energy complaining. It really doesn’t have to be that way. We can find a good life through more activities by enjoying the simpler things that are everywhere around us.

As you know I often travel, with my greatest joy coming from the new people I meet and the new friends I make along the way. In truth I don’t have to travel the world to find those same rewards; ethnic groups abound in my city and I can attend their festivals, visit their churches and eat in their restaurants. I may not be able to see as many major theatre productions as I once did but I can find enjoyment in local community theatre. I can see great art in Florence, Paris or New York or enjoy what is being shown in a nearby museum or works exhibited by emerging artists at a local art fair. Yes there is new adventure and experiences all around us just waiting to be discovered.

We own our own destiny. The challenges we face can get us down, but only if we let them. It may not be easy to build a life that does not require as much as we once had but not doing so is a terrible price to pay. So my friends won’t you join me as I take the time to appreciate the things close by while enjoying the additional time I now have to spend with folks I care about and neighbors I have yet to meet.

If you need reinforcement during these trying times watch some of the feel-good movies our parents and grandparents watched during the great depression, during a time much worse than it is now many films were filled with optimism and simple joy. And you know what? You can probably borrow them for free at your public library.


Realize that your present difficulty is only a small part of you, and the rest of you is doing quite well, thank you.

Lynn Grabhorn


Retirees: The Whole Truth, Nothing But…

Question: How many days in a week? Answer: 6 Saturdays, 1 Sunday

Question: When is a retiree’s bedtime? Answer: Three hours after he falls asleep on the couch.

Question: How many retirees to change a light bulb? Answer: Only one, but it might take all day.

Question: What’s the biggest gripe of retirees? Answer: There is not enough time to get everything done.

Question: Why don’t retirees mind being called Seniors? Answer: The term comes with a 10% percent discount.

Question: Among retirees what is considered formal attire? Answer: Tied shoes.

Question: Why do retirees count pennies? Answers: They are the only ones who have the time.

Question: What is the common term for someone who enjoys work and refuses to retire? Answer: NUTS!

Question: Why are retirees so slow to clean out the basement, attic or garage? Answer: They know that as soon as they do, one of their adult kids will want to store stuff there.

Question: What do retirees call a long lunch? Answer: Normal.

Question: What is the best way to describe retirement? Answers: The never ending Coffee Break.

Question: What’s the biggest advantage of going back to school as a retiree? Answer: If you cut classes, no one calls your parents.

Question: Why does a retiree often say he doesn’t miss work, but misses the people he used to work with? Answer: He is too polite to tell the whole truth.

Share this one with all the retirees that you know. I’m sure they can relate to some of them! AND, If you have not yet retired, look what you have to look forward too….


Lead me not into temptation. I know my way.


To impress his date, the young man took her to a very chic Italian restaurant. After sipping some fine wine, he picked up the menu and studied it with an appraising eye.

“We’ll have the Giuseppe Spomdalucci,” he said finally.

“Sorry, sir,” said the waiter. “That’s the owner.”


We are not Human Beings having a spiritual experience. We are Spiritual Beings having a human experience.

Dr. Wayne W. Dyer


Every morning for years, at about 11:30, the telephone operator in a small Sierra-Nevada town received a call from a man asking the exact time. One day the operator summed up nerve enough to ask him why the regularity. “I’m foreman of the local sawmill,” he explained. “Every day I have to blow the whistle at noon so I call you to get the exact time.” The operator giggled, “That’s really funny,” she said. “All this time we’ve been setting our clock by your whistle.




An American lawyer asked, “Paddy, why is it that whenever you ask an Irishman a question, he answers with another question?”

“Who told you that?” asked Paddy.


Procrastinators Unite… Tomorrow!


Last month, after much deliberation, I bought a magnolia tree from our local nursery.  After only a few weeks I noticed that the leaves had started to shrivel and the tree appeared to be on its last legs in spite of my tender care. So I took some leaf samples and marched back to the nursery to demand an explanation or get my money back.

“I know exactly what’s wrong with your magnolia,” said the manager.

“Good!” I exclaimed. “What’s it suffering from?”

You can imagine how stupid I felt when he simply said, “autumn.”


“If we are to reach real peace in this world we shall have to begin with the children.”



Stay well, do good work, and have fun.

Ray Mitchell

Indianapolis, Indiana

Management is not responsible for duplicates from previous dailies. The editor is somewhat senile.

This daily is sent only to special people who want to start their day on an upbeat. If you have system overload because of our daily clutter, let me know and I will send you the information via mental telepathy. If you have not been getting our daily you can request to be added by e-mailing me at raykiwsp@gmail.com. Back issues are posted at http://raykiwsp.wordpress.com/ currently there are more than 2000 readers from around the world.


They are everywhere

There are no strangers here; Only friends you haven’t yet met.

William Butler Yeats

 Be a friend

Yesterday I shared with you my thoughts on the importance of companionship. Since then I have thought about the wide variety of people who have provided me pleasant and often valuable companionship. What surprised me was the wide diversity of people who have offered me their friendship over the years. They have come from a wide range of backgrounds, cultures and economic status. I again realized how fortunate I have been by thinking of almost everybody I meet as being worthy and as a possible new friend.

I have traveled all over the world, often in situations where language differences required a very basic level of communications, yet in spite of differences friendships were born. I think the key is respecting the people you meet while letting them have a chance to appreciate you in return.

I recently read an article by Carolynne Melnyk that reported experiences somewhat similar to a few of mine. Here are some of her thoughts:

 Things I Learned from Wandering the World

For over 25 years I wandered the world.  Along the way, I had many adventures and learned about myself, people and the world. These are some of the things I learned:

  • I learned that people all over the world want the same basic things: enough to eat, clear water, decent shelter, good health, education and opportunities for their children, an honest way to earn some money and respect.
  • I learned that some of the poorest people on this planet are also some of the most generous. They share what they have, even if it is only a glass of water. When someone offers you something from the heart it can be considered very rude to refuse the generosity.
  • I learned I could be comfortable in the company of world leaders and dignitaries and, with people in the slums of Africa, South America and Asia. Take away our outer trappings and labels to find underneath we are all the same.
  • I learned that each culture has a different interpretation of personal space. From experience, I have found that the more populated a country is the less personal space you are given.
  • I learned to appreciate everything I had and yet to have no attachment to them. This was taught to me when Iraq invaded Kuwait. During this war I lost most of my possessions, including all my professional documents.  Things can be replaced.
  • I learned to trust strangers. In Alexandra, Egypt, a friend and I were standing under a street sign trying to decipher the Arabic on our map with the Arabic on the sign when an elderly man stopped to help.  With gestures we indicated where we wanted to go.  He called someone, a young boy appeared, then he waved for us to follow the boy.  We did and we arrived at our destination.  Later, we discovered we were in a part of the city that most Egyptian wouldn’t enter unless they absolutely had to.  Sometimes you just have to trust and know everything will be just fine.
  • I learned the joy of spontaneous laughter, singing and dancing with new friends in Greece, Russia and Latvia. Freedom is completely enjoying the moment.
  • I learned to experience life fully and to embrace whatever was presented. I learned to love all people and to respect this beautiful planet that we live on.

You don’t need to travel to the world for experiences, they are present all around you every day.  You just have to be willing to look at the blessings each holds.


Never lose sight of the fact that the most important yardstick of your success will be how you treat other people – your family, friends, and coworkers, and even strangers you meet along the way.

Barbara Bush


Wayne, a friend of mine, owns an auto-repair business. One day a woman called to inquire when he could work on her car. “I’m not busy now,” he replied. “bring it right in.” A short time later, the woman pulled into the service bay, stopping her small car perfectly over the wide, deep grease pit.

“Wow!” Remarked Wayne. “That’s great driving. Your wheels only have a couple of inches to spare on each side of the pit.”

She looked blankly at him and asked, “What pit?”


You can’t be afraid of stepping on toes if you want to go dancing.

Lewis Freedman


“I play golf in the low 80’s,” the little old man was telling one of the young boys at the club.

“Wow,” said the young man, “that’s pretty impressive.”

“Not really,” said the little old man. “Any hotter and I’d probably have a stroke.”


“A good friend is a connection to life, a tie to the past, a road to the future, the key to sanity in a totally insane world.”

Lois Wyse


An English teacher asked her 8th grade class to write an essay on what they would do if they had a million dollars. Morris handed in a blank sheet of paper. “Morris!” yelled the teacher, “you’ve done absolutely nothing.  Why?”

“Because if I had a million dollars, that’s exactly what I would do!”


Whenever I feel blue, I start breathing again.


I lived in Minnesota during the late ‘60s, I not only survived there, I thrived there, but it was not always easy.

  1. I came, I thawed, I transferred…
  2. Survive Minnesota and the rest of the World is easy.
  3. If you love Minnesota, raise your right ski.
  4. Minnesota-where visitors turn blue with envy.
  5. Save a Minnesotan – Eat a mosquito.
  6. One day it’s warm, the rest of the year it’s cold.
  7. Minnesota – home of the blonde hair and blue ears.
  8. Minnesota – mosquito supplier to the free world.
  9. Minnesota – come fall in love with a Loon.
  10. Land of many cultures – mostly throat.
  11. Where the elite meet sleet.
  12. Minnesota: Closed for glacier repairs.
  13. Land of 2 seasons: Winter is coming, Winter is here.
  14. Minnesota – glove it or leave it.
  15. Minnesota – have you jump started your kid today?
  16. There are only 3 things you can grow in Minnesota: Colder, Older and Fatter.
  17. Many are cold, but few are frozen.
  18. Why Minnesota? To protect Ontario from Iowa!
  19. Warning: You are entering Minnesota, Please use an alternate route!
  20. Minnesota: Theater of sneezes.
  21. Jack Frost must like Minnesota, he spends half his life here.
  22. Land of 10,000 Petersons.
  23. Land of ski and home of the crazed.
  24. Minnesota, home of the Mispi – Mispp – Missipsp (Where the darn river starts!)
  25. 10,000 lakes and no sharks!


“Meeting a stranger can be totally fleeting and meaningless, for example, unless you enter the individual’s world by finding out at least one thing that is meaningful to his or her life and exchange at least one genuine feeling. Tuning in to others is a circular flow: you send yourself out toward people; you receive them as they respond to you.”

Deepak Chopra


Stay well, do good work, and have fun.

Ray Mitchell

Indianapolis, Indiana

Management is not responsible for duplicates from previous dailies. The editor is somewhat senile.

This daily is sent only to special people who want to start their day on an upbeat. If you have system overload because of our daily clutter, let me know and I will send you the information via mental telepathy. If you have not been getting our daily you can request to be added by e-mailing me at raykiwsp@gmail.com. Back issues are posted at http://raykiwsp.wordpress.com/ currently there are more than 2000 readers from around the world.


“To get the full value of joy you must have someone to divide it with.”

Mark Twain


One of the things I learned long ago was how much better things are that are shared rather than just experienced. There is a special joy that comes from being with a spouse watching your child’s first step. A win by your favorite sports team is much more fun when seen with a friend. And have you noticed how much more you can appreciate a beautiful sunset when it is watched with someone special at your side.

In truth it is companionship that not only adds to lifes joy but also makes the more difficult times easier to handle. I am not sure we appreciate the value our friends, family and loved ones as they accompany us during the stages of our lives, especially during our formative and middle years. But I do know the pain that comes to far too many from the loneliness they experience in old age. But I know many that truly love the golden years, these are folks who are always offering companionship to others and who in the process benefit from the relationships that they continue to make.

So my friends please let those who share in your life know they are appreciated and as you go through your life. Reach out to others as the years go by for they can keep you happy and healthy.

Here are tips offered by Mart Mohler for AARP on how we can find friends to share our lives. Please offer it to the potentially lonely not as a judgmental criticism of their lives but rather as a gift you willing to share with them.

Never Too Old to Find New Friends

When you were in school, you had no problem making friends. Ditto for those years when you were a parent of growing kids. But now that you’ve reached a new stage of life — and maybe have relocated or retired — making new acquaintances can be a little trickier. Still, it’s important to make the effort. Close relationships with others are vital to your health — physical, mental and emotional — your self-esteem and even your longevity, according to recent research. So if you find yourself enthusiastically chatting with telemarketers, you probably need to make some new connections. Here are 15 things that can help you.

  1. Get over the idea that everybody else your age already has all the friends they need. “Nobody wears a sign that says ‘I’m looking for a friend,’ but there are a lot of people out there in the same boat,” Paul says.
  2. Accept invitations, even if you suspect it won’t be the night of your life. Just getting out increases the chances of meeting new people — and friends are sometimes found in unlikely places.
  3. Check out continuing-education classes at your local college or university. In addition, many colleges allow older adults to audit regular classes for free, and some have programs specifically for seniors.
  4. Senior centers have moved way beyond Friday-night bingo. Most have a variety of classes, activities and even trips. Stop by and ask for a schedule.
  5. If you’re retired, take a part-time job, even for just a few hours a week. It will expose you to new people and give you a little extra pocket money to boot.
  6. Pursue your own interests — concerts, lectures, tai chi, cooking classes, whatever. “Look for things you’re passionate about and attend consistently so that you have time to build relationships naturally,” Paul says.
  7. Set up a page on Facebook. You can connect with old friends and friends of friends — who just may happen to know someone in your area. Worst case: you’ll find a few online soul mates.
  8. Invite a few of your neighbors for dinner if you like to cook, or organize a potluck meal if you don’t.
  9. Get a dog if you’re an animal lover. Conversations with other dog walkers are guaranteed, and even people without pets will stop to say hello to Max, giving you the perfect opener. Can’t have a pet? Volunteer at your local shelter.
  10. Work out at a nearby gym or the Y — but don’t just do the machine routine: Join a class so you see the same people every week.
  11. “Don’t put too much pressure on a fragile new friendship because that can scare people away,” Paul says. If someone doesn’t call you back immediately, don’t assume they simply don’t like you. Try again.
  12. Have faith — and exercise it. Many churches and synagogues make it a point to welcome newbies and introduce them around.
  13. Volunteer in your community. Museums, hospitals, churches, animal shelters and schools are always looking for people to help out. Find opportunities in your area at AARP’s createthegood.org or VolunteersofAmerica.org.
  14. Log on to Meetup.com and enter your ZIP code. You’ll find dozens, even hundreds, of groups in your area, focusing on everything from animals to Zen meditation. Also check out the AARP online community. If you can’t find the right group, you can start your own.
  15. Be willing to take a risk. When you meet someone you like — a salesperson or someone seated next to you at a lunch counter — take the initiative and ask for an email address. What’s the worst that can happen?


“Joy multiplies when it is shared among friends, but grief diminishes with every division. That is life.”

R.A. Salvatore


In a perfect world………

A person should feel as good at 50 as he did at 17 and he would actually be as smart at 50 as he thought he was at 17.

Forget-me-nots would stimulate the memory.

Doing what was good for you would be what you enjoyed doing the most.

Pro baseball players would complain about teachers being paid contracts worth millions of dollars.

Potato chips might have calories, but if you ate them with a dip, the calories would be neutralized.

First impressions wouldn’t count for nearly as much as ultimate performance.

Highway patrolmen would never be around when you’re running late, but would always be at your side when a BMW blows past or a Mac truck won’t get off your bumper.


You know the honeymoon is pretty much over when you start to go out with the boys on Wednesday nights, and so does she.


A fellow got up one Saturday morning with the odd feeling that something about this day was to be different. Something unusual was about to happen. He glanced out the window at the thermometer: 33 degrees. He went downstairs – the clock had stopped at 3 o’clock. He picked up the newspaper and read the date: the 3rd of the month. Threes – that was it! He grabbed the paper and flipped it open to the racing section. Sure enough in the 3rd race, there was a horse named Trio! The fellow hurried to the bank, drew out his life savings and bet it all on the horse to win.

The horse ran third.


“I want to have children, but my friends scare me. One of my friends told me she was in labor for thirty-six hours. I don’t even want to do anything that feels good for thirty-six hours.”

Rita Rudner


Two friends, one an Optimist and the other a Pessimist could never quite agree on any topic of discussion.

One day the Optimist decided he had found a good way to pull his Pessimistic friend out of his way of continual Pessimistic way of thinking. The Optimist owned a huntin’ dog that could walk on water. His plan? Take the Pessimist and the dog out in a boat duck hunting.

This he did. They got out into the middle of the lake, and the Optimist shot down a duck…the dog immediately walked out across the water, retrieved the duck, and walked back to the boat.

The Optimist looked at his Pessimistic friend and said, “What do you think about that?”

The Pessimist replied, “That dog can’t swim, can he?”


“And as ridiculous as it may sound, sometimes all any of us needs in life is for someone to hold our hand and walk next to us.”

James Frey


Stay well, do good work, and have fun.

Ray Mitchell

Indianapolis, Indiana

Management is not responsible for duplicates from previous dailies. The editor is somewhat senile.

This daily is sent only to special people who want to start their day on an upbeat. If you have system overload because of our daily clutter, let me know and I will send you the information via mental telepathy. If you have not been getting our daily you can request to be added by e-mailing me at raykiwsp@gmail.com. Back issues are posted at http://raykiwsp.wordpress.com/ currently there are more than 2000 readers from around the world.


We need everybody

“We cannot solve our problems with the same level of thinking that created them”

Albert Einstein


I had breakfast with an organizational development expert the other day where I heard about an enterprise that was struggling because there was a disconnect between their leadership and their employees. As I drove home I thought about a retired CEO that told me he had heard complaints from recent college graduates that the older generation would not get out of their way, as if they did not feel that they had to earn their leadership roles. On the other side of the coin I have seen many organization struggle these days as leaders sought to solve todays problems with yesterday’s solutions. Things are moving too fast to expect what worked yesterday will work tomorrow.

In my view the only solution lies in building a workplace environment that allows full participation in the problem solving effort. We need to combine the wisdom of the seasoned with the knowledge of the current generation. Here is a slightly edited article that I feel holds the answer for many of today’s struggling organizations.


You Can’t Solve Today’s Problems with Yesterday’s Solutions

by Ron Thomas

If you think of how change has come to our lives, especially with the advent of social media, everything is different. The organization and its people, however, are struggling as to how to keep pace. If leaders use the model of being at the center of the web, or if your organization puts its people first, these are innovations that would be unheard of in years past.

The old org chart is a thing of the past. The Scottish-American engineer Daniel McCallum is credited for creating the first organizational charts of American business around 1854. Based on that calculation, the org chart is approximately 158 years old. With project-based work, team approaches and virtual work, it almost makes the org chart obsolete.

Helping someone to get what they want

On the other hand, if you look at the concept of Employees First, Customers Second it notes that ”[EFCS] … turned the traditional management hierarchy upside down. The aim of EFCS was to create trust, to make managers as accountable to employees as employees were to their bosses, to transfer the responsibility for change and value creation to front-line employees working in the what they describe as the ‘value zone’ where HCL and its customers interact. Systems and processes were put in place designed to achieve these goals.”

Starbucks is another company that works with this concept. Even part-time employees get health insurance. Costco’s CEO recently said he was an advocate of the raising of the minimum wage. Both these organizations pay above average wages and have other initiatives that mirror the employee first philosophy. If you think of any organization that makes employer of choice or best places to work lists, you can see leadership from the web. You can also see the inverted pyramid.

In order to get what you want you have to help someone get what they want. That means that organizations must do whatever they can to help their collective group of employees get or achieve what they want. This model has a host of benefits — increased productivity, increased employee engagement, innovation and creativity. The derivative of this is the bottom line looks a lot stronger.

We are all in this together

Organizations of the future are going to need to adapt a new model of doing business. This is the era of “talent,” and that talent as a whole will not be mistreated in any way. They walk out every day and are not tied to anyone. Everyone within the organization has to buy into the concept of helping each other. It is not just leadership at the top; it is leadership from every corner of the organization. Team leader, project lead, VP or C-level — all must adhere to that new mindset.

No organization will survive, talent-wise, unless adjustments are made. There will always be adjustments made going forward; there is no one size fits all. You can’t duplicate another company’s culture no matter how hard you try. But, what you can do is pay close attention to your organizational culture, experiment, and make adjustments.

Whether you are leading from the web or putting your employees first, remember this: today’s issues cannot be solved with an Industrial Age mindset.


People who work together will win, whether it be against complex football defenses, or the problems of modern society.

Vince Lombardi


She said:

If you write in the dust, please don’t date it!

I would cook dinner but I can’t find the can opener!

My house was clean last week, too bad you missed it!

A clean kitchen is the sign of a wasted life.


I came, I saw, I decided to order take out.

If you don’t like my standards of cooking…lower your standards.


The 50-50-90 Rule: Anytime you have a 50-50 chance of getting something right, there’s a 90% probability you’ll get it wrong.


In the world of physics, we’ve all heard of the “Doppler Effect” which causes train whistles to sound higher in pitch as the train approaches and then sound lower in pitch as the train recedes. There is, however, a lesser-known effect called the “Dopeler Effect.” The Dopeler Effect is the tendency of stupid ideas to sound much smarter when they came at you quickly


If at first you don’t succeed, you’ve failed again


A pastor went out one Saturday to visit his church members.  At one house it was obvious that someone was home, but nobody came to the door even though the pastor had knocked several times.  Finally, the pastor took out his card and wrote “Revelations 3:20″ on the back of it, and stuck it in the door.

{Behold, I stand at the door and knock. If anyone hears my voice and opens the door, I will come in to him and dine with him and him with me.}

The next day, the card turned up in the collection plate.  Below the pastor’s message was the notation “Genesis 3:10″.

{I heard your voice in the garden, and I was afraid, because I was naked; and I hid myself.}


I plead contemporary insanity.


“My uncle in Detroit tried to make a new kind of car. He took the engine from a Ford, the transmission from an Oldsmobile, the tires from a Cadillac, and the exhaust system from a Plymouth.”

“Really? What did he get?”

“Fifteen years.”


“Sometimes I get the feeling that the whole world is against me, but deep down I know that’s not true. Some of the smaller countries are neutral.”

Robert Orben


“Leaders are problem solvers by talent and temperament, and by choice. For them, the new information environment—undermining old means of control, opening up old closets of secrecy, reducing the relevance of ownership, early arrival, and location—should seem less a litany of problems than an agenda for action. Reaching for a way to describe the entrepreneurial energy of his fabled editor Harold Ross, James Thurber said: ‘He was always leaning forward, pushing something invisible ahead of him.’ That’s the appropriate posture for a knowledge executive.”

Harlan Cleveland


Stay well, do good work, and have fun.

Ray Mitchell

Indianapolis, Indiana

Management is not responsible for duplicates from previous dailies. The editor is somewhat senile.

This daily is sent only to special people who want to start their day on an upbeat. If you have system overload because of our daily clutter, let me know and I will send you the information via mental telepathy. If you have not been getting our daily you can request to be added by e-mailing me at raykiwsp@gmail.com. Back issues are posted at http://raykiwsp.wordpress.com/ currently there are more than 2000 readers from around the world.


Mason still needs us all

 Mason 2

Hi all, I do appreciate the many of you that have been following Mason’s fight for life. He needs every ones prayers. Here is an update from his Great Grand Father my good friend Ken.


Hey Ray,

Will you be able to distribute Mason’s recent update to your audience? We need all the prayer we can generate, this is a critical month for him.

Thanks for your help,


Below is the update sent after Mason’s 3rd chemo session. However he is now in his 4th session and subsequently will undergo a 10 hour surgery to remove a large intertwined tumor. (Further down is a copy of a recent email from my son which describes Mason’s condition in more detail. Jean and I did not know about a tumor. Our understanding was skeletal cancer throughout his body, similar to the bone marrow cancer my brother had).


As you know our Great-grandson Mason was surprisingly diagnosed with stage 4 Cancer after only a fews weeks of minor illness. Thank you for all your prayers and good wishes for Mason’s recovery. The immediate family has just provided this update on Mason’s condition and express their thanks for everyone’s thoughts and prayers.

Mason just came home from the hospital after completing his second round  of Chemo, He will be home for 2 week and than go back in for his 3rd session. He has responded well to the treatment in regards to it not making him real sick and his spirits are good. We really won’t know any real progress on the tumor for a while as we all know this is a long slow process.

Again we are thankful for everyone’s thoughts and prayers for Mason and in recognition that September is Childhood Cancer Awareness month lets include a prayer for a Cure for this disease.

We will keep you posted on Mason’s condition after each Chemo session is complete.

God Bless you all.


Here is a quick overview of what Mason is battling. Neuroblastoma is a rare disease in which a solid tumor (a lump or mass caused by uncontrolled or abnormal cell growth) is formed by special nerve cells called neuroblasts. Normally, these immature cells grow and mature into functioning nerve cells. But in neuroblastoma, they become cancer cells instead.

Neuroblastoma most commonly starts in the tissue of the adrenal glands, the triangular glands on top of the kidneys that produce hormones responsible for controlling heart rate, blood pressure, and other important functions. Like other cancers, neuroblastoma can spread (metastasize) to other parts of the body, such as the lymph nodes, skin, liver, and bones

In Mason’s case the tumor is quite large (about watermelon size) and that grown around and entangled several organ within his abdominal cavity. After his 4th round of chemo they will work to remove this mass.



Fear keeps us focused on the past or worried about the future. If we can acknowledge our fear, we can realize that right now we are okay. Right now, today, we are still alive, and our bodies are working marvelously. Our eyes can still see the beautiful sky. Our ears can still hear the voices of our loved ones.

Thich Nhat Hanh


Here we are another Friday. This morning I will have my last Cardiac Rehabilitation session for the week and then meet with one of the good guys. He is a relatively new friend that is considering offering his wisdom and his concern for others to help our community better serve the over 50 crowd. I enjoy visiting with him and appreciate the way he thinks and since I am way over 50 I have a special interest in what he does.

Because I have to go soon I am sending you the Daily I published on this day thirteen years ago.

 October 17, 2001

I had a great day yesterday at Cypress Gardens, if you are ever in Central Florida stop by, I think you will be glad you did. It is more oriented to adults but I think kids would enjoy it as well.

Speaking of kids. These are truly difficult times for us all, especially the children. It is important that we do not let the news of the day and our reactions frighten and traumatize them.

We adults have the ability to put things into perspective as it relates to the potential for any one of us suffering personal injury from what is going on. We know that more than 150 people are killed in auto accidents everyday, and thousands more are injured. Those of us who are older have lived through a World War when none of us were sure that the war would not reach our shores. We remember polio epidemics that resulted in beaches, movie theatres, and more being closed at times during our summer school vacation.

Unfortunately kids don’t have the mental defenses that we have built based on our experiences. I believe it is important to let them know they are safe. We must not let any fears we may have spill over into their lives. We should avoid canceling that planned vacation. We should continue to take our kids to the places that we would of before September 11th. I am not suggesting that we try to hide the facts from children, which would be impossible; I am only suggesting that we let them know they are safe by our words and our actions.


Anyone can hold the helm when the sea is calm.

Publilius Syrus


She defines the following as:

Argument (ar*gyou*ment) n. — A discussion that occurs when you’re right, but he just hasn’t realized it yet.

Airhead (er*hed) n. — What a woman intentionally becomes when pulled over by a policeman.

Bar-be-que (bar*bi*q) n. — You bought the groceries, washed the lettuce, chopped the tomatoes, diced the onions, marinated the meat, and cleaned everything up, but he “made the dinner”.

Cantaloupe (kant*e*lope) n. — Gotta get married in a church.

Childbirth (child*brth) n. — You get to go through 36 hours of contractions; he gets to hold your hand and say “focus…breathe….push….”

Clothes dryer (kloze dri*yer) n. — An appliance designed to eat socks.

Diet Soda (dy*it so*da) n. — A drink you buy at a convenience store to go with a half pound bag of peanut M&M’s.

Eternity (e*ter*ni*tee) n. — The last two minutes of a football game.

Exercise (ex*er*siz) v. — To walk up and down a mall, occasionally resting to make a purchase.

Grocery list (grow*ser*ee list) n. — What you spend half an hour writing, then forget to take with you to the store.

Hair Dresser (hare dres*er) n. — Someone who is able to create a style you will never be able to duplicate again. See “Magician”.

Hardware Store (hard*war stor) n. — Similar to a black hole in space: if he goes in, he isn’t coming out anytime soon.

Lipstick (lip*stik) n. — On your lips, coloring to enhance the beauty of your mouth. On his collar, coloring only a tramp would wear…!

Park (park) v./n. — Before children, a verb meaning “to go somewhere and neck.” After children, a noun meaning a place with a swing set and slide.

Patience (pa*shens) n. — The most important ingredient for dating, marriage, and children. See also “tranquilizers”.

Valentine’s Day (val*en*tinez dae) n. — A day when you have dreams of a candlelight dinner, diamonds, and romance, but consider yourself lucky to get a card.

Waterproof Mascara (wah*tr*pruf mas*kar*ah) n. — Comes off if you cry, shower, or swim, but will not come off if you try to remove it.


First you forget names, then you forget faces, then you forget to pull your zipper up, then you forget to pull your zipper down.

Leo Rosenburg


A 4-year-old boy who was asked to return thanks before Christmas dinner. The family members bowed their heads in expectation. He began his prayer, thanking God for all his friends, naming them one by one. Then he thanked God for Mommy, Daddy, brother, sister, Grandma, Grandpa, and all his aunts and uncles. Then he began to thank God for the food.

He gave thanks for the turkey, the dressing, the fruit salad, the cranberry sauce, the pies, the cakes, even the Cool Whip. Then he paused, and everyone waited–and waited. After a long silence, the young fellow looked up at his mother and asked, “If I thank God for the broccoli, won’t he know that I’m lying?”


How many roads must a man travel down before he admits he is lost?


A big city California lawyer went duck hunting in rural Texas. He shot and dropped a bird, but it fell into a farmer’s field on the other side of a fence.

As the lawyer climbed over the fence, an elderly farmer drove up on his tractor and asked him what he was doing. The litigator responded, “I shot a duck and it fell in this field, and now I’m going into retrieve it.”

The old farmer replied. “This is my property, and you are not coming over here.”

The indignant lawyer said, “I am one of the best trial attorneys in the U.S. and, if you don’t let me get that duck, I’ll sue you and take everything you own.”

The old farmer smiled and said, “Apparently, you don’t know how we do things in Texas. We settle small disagreements like this with the Texas Three Kick Rule.”

The lawyer asked, “What is the Texas Three Kick Rule?”

The Farmer replied. “Well, first I kick you three times and then you kick me three times, and so on, back and forth, until someone gives up.”

The attorney quickly thought about the proposed contest and decided that he could easily take the old codger. He agreed to abide by the local custom.

The old farmer slowly climbed down from the tractor and walked up to the city feller. His first kick planted the toe of his heavy work boot into the lawyer’s groin and dropped him to his knees. His second kick nearly ripped the man’s nose off his face. The barrister was flat on his belly when the farmer’s third kick to a kidney nearly caused him to give up.

The lawyer summoned every bit of his will and managed to get to his feet and said, “Okay, you old coot now it’s my turn.”

The old farmer smiled and said, “Naw, I give up. You can have the duck.”


Don’t be sexist — broads hate that.


A family was visiting an Indian reservation when they happen upon an old tribesman laying face down in the middle of the road with his ear pressed firmly against the blacktop. The father of the family asked the old tribesman what he was doing. The tribesman began to speak… “woman, late thirties, three kids, one barking dog in late model, Four door station wagon, traveling at 65 m.p.h.”

“That’s amazing” exclaimed the father.

“You can tell all of that by just listening to the ground”?

“No”, said the old tribesman. “They just ran over me five minutes ago!”


“You cannot do a kindness too soon because you never know how soon it will be too late.”

Ralph Waldo Emerson


Stay well, do good work, and have fun.

Ray Mitchell

Indianapolis, Indiana

Management is not responsible for duplicates from previous dailies. The editor is somewhat senile.

This daily is sent only to special people who want to start their day on an upbeat. If you have system overload because of our daily clutter, let me know and I will send you the information via mental telepathy. If you have not been getting our daily you can request to be added by e-mailing me at raykiwsp@gmail.com. Back issues are posted at http://raykiwsp.wordpress.com/ currently there are more than 2000 readers from around the world.


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