It’s not who you are that holds you back, it’s who you think you’re not.
Attributed to Hanoch McCarty
The other day I shared with you my concern about the fact that too many people I meet don’t realize just how good they are. I suggested that people would benefit from doing a periodic inventory in order to focus in on what they do that they overlook.
I am gratified when I see folks realize that the things they do every day are important and provide reason io feel good about themselves. I am especially pleased when the knowledge of their self-worth results is a growth of self-esteem.
I recently read an article on the Wings for the Heart blog that I wish more folks would read. Here it is.
Building Your Self-Confidence
The key to being able to accomplish our goals in life is having unshakable self-confidence and a belief in ourselves. Without confidence, we would never have the courage to apply for jobs, go to college, or even commit to a serious relationship. We may find ourselves holding back on pursuing our dreams, sabotaging our own efforts, or even refusing to try at all. Building up our self-confidence doesn’t have to be a daunting task; it can actually be quite fun. It may take time and practice before we see big results, but if we keep at it, we will eventually notice positive changes.
Try these suggested techniques to jump start your own self-confidence, and be on your way to creating success for yourself.
Use creative visualization – Rest your mind and imagine a situation where you are confident and successful. Go over the details thoroughly in your mind. What did you do? What did you say? You can also try to remember a time in the past when you acted with a lack of confidence. Go over the situation in your mind, changing whatever details you would need to alter the outcome to a desired one. Visualize yourself strengthening your self-confidence and acting the way you wish you would have acted. Don’t judge yourself – simply re-create the situation and envision yourself with strong self-confidence, and having the outcome be better.
Practice affirmations – Believing you have what it takes to be successful in life means embedding it so far in your subconscious mind that you can no longer deny it. One way to accomplish this is to practice affirmations that make you feel empowered and strong. Write down statements such as “I can do anything I set my mind to,” and “Nothing can hold me back.” Say these nightly before bed, and any time during the day when you feel fearful or hesitant, and they will stick in your subconscious, which will ultimately remind you of these truths when you need them the most.
Act “as if” – This is similar to creative visualization, but a little more specific. Pretend you are already what you want to become. Do you want to lose ten pounds and fit into your old jeans? Picture yourself ten pounds lighter, and actually take the time to imagine what it is like to slip those jeans on. Take in all the senses of being ten pounds lighter. On a side note: Did you know that basketball players who visualize the ball going into the net prior to throwing it are far more likely to actually make the throw than those who don’t? It’s true.
Graciously accept praise – When people offer you praise for a job well-done, accept politely and don’t add any negative comments. For instance, if a friend compliments your new hairstyle, say “Thank you,” not “Thanks, but I think it looks funny.” People almost always mean what they say, especially if they say it unprovoked. Don’t second guess their praises of you. If you graciously accept, the result is that you will appreciate yourself just as much as others appreciate you.
Finally, allow yourself to believe you have the ability to accomplish anything, and you will be rewarded with feelings of confidence and courage. Remember that your thoughts have tremendous power! If you believe yourself to be confident and strong, guess what? You will be.
Success comes in cans, not cant’s.
You Live in California when…
- You make over $250,000 and you still can’t afford to buy a house.
- The high school quarterback calls a time-out to answer his cell phone.
- The fastest part of your commute is going down your driveway.
- You know how to eat an artichoke.
- You drive your rented Mercedes to your neighborhood block party.
- When someone asks you how far something is, you tell them how long it will take to get there rather than how many miles away it is.
You Live in Maine when…
- You only have four spices: salt, pepper, ketchup, and Tabasco.
- Halloween costumes fit over parkas.
- You have more than one recipe for moose.
- Sexy lingerie is anything flannel with less than eight buttons.
- The four seasons are: winter, still winter, almost winter, and construction.
You live in Colorado when…
- You carry your $3,000 mountain bike atop your $500 car.
- You tell your husband to pick up Granola on his way home and he stops at the day care center.
- A pass does not involve a football or dating.
- The top of your head is bald, but you still have a pony tail.
You live in the Midwest when…
- You’ve never met any celebrities, but the mayor knows your name.
- Your idea of a traffic jam is ten cars waiting to pass a tractor.
- You have had to switch from “heat” to “A/C” on the same day.
- You end sentences with a preposition: “Where’s my coat at?”
- When asked how your trip was to any exotic place, you say, “It was different!”
You live in Florida when…
- You eat dinner at 4:15 in the afternoon.
- All purchases include a coupon of some kind — even houses and cars.
- Everyone can recommend an excellent dermatologist.
- Road construction never ends anywhere in the state.
- Cars in front of you are often driven by headless people.
Law of the Search – The first place to look for any thing is the last place you would expect to find it.
The police recently busted a man selling ‘secret formula’ tablets he claimed gave eternal youth. When going through their files they noticed it was the fifth time he was caught for committing this same criminal medical fraud. He had earlier been arrested in 1794, 1856, 1928 and 1983………..
“Low self-esteem is like driving through life with your hand-break on.”
I’m not saying our new receptionist is dumb, but this is how she filled out her insurance forms:
Date of Birth: January 12, 1988
Weight: 6 pounds, 10 ounces
Height: 20 inches
Don’t wait until everything is just right, it will never be perfect. There will always be challenges, obstacles and less than perfect conditions. So what. Get started now. With each step you take, you will grow stronger and stronger, more and more skilled, and more self-confident and more and more successful.
Mark Victor Hansen
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