“To get the full value of joy you must have someone to divide it with.”
One of the things I learned long ago was how much better things are that are shared rather than just experienced. There is a special joy that comes from being with a spouse watching your child’s first step. A win by your favorite sports team is much more fun when seen with a friend. And have you noticed how much more you can appreciate a beautiful sunset when it is watched with someone special at your side.
In truth it is companionship that not only adds to lifes joy but also makes the more difficult times easier to handle. I am not sure we appreciate the value our friends, family and loved ones as they accompany us during the stages of our lives, especially during our formative and middle years. But I do know the pain that comes to far too many from the loneliness they experience in old age. But I know many that truly love the golden years, these are folks who are always offering companionship to others and who in the process benefit from the relationships that they continue to make.
So my friends please let those who share in your life know they are appreciated and as you go through your life. Reach out to others as the years go by for they can keep you happy and healthy.
Here are tips offered by Mart Mohler for AARP on how we can find friends to share our lives. Please offer it to the potentially lonely not as a judgmental criticism of their lives but rather as a gift you willing to share with them.
Never Too Old to Find New Friends
When you were in school, you had no problem making friends. Ditto for those years when you were a parent of growing kids. But now that you’ve reached a new stage of life — and maybe have relocated or retired — making new acquaintances can be a little trickier. Still, it’s important to make the effort. Close relationships with others are vital to your health — physical, mental and emotional — your self-esteem and even your longevity, according to recent research. So if you find yourself enthusiastically chatting with telemarketers, you probably need to make some new connections. Here are 15 things that can help you.
- Get over the idea that everybody else your age already has all the friends they need. “Nobody wears a sign that says ‘I’m looking for a friend,’ but there are a lot of people out there in the same boat,” Paul says.
- Accept invitations, even if you suspect it won’t be the night of your life. Just getting out increases the chances of meeting new people — and friends are sometimes found in unlikely places.
- Check out continuing-education classes at your local college or university. In addition, many colleges allow older adults to audit regular classes for free, and some have programs specifically for seniors.
- Senior centers have moved way beyond Friday-night bingo. Most have a variety of classes, activities and even trips. Stop by and ask for a schedule.
- If you’re retired, take a part-time job, even for just a few hours a week. It will expose you to new people and give you a little extra pocket money to boot.
- Pursue your own interests — concerts, lectures, tai chi, cooking classes, whatever. “Look for things you’re passionate about and attend consistently so that you have time to build relationships naturally,” Paul says.
- Set up a page on Facebook. You can connect with old friends and friends of friends — who just may happen to know someone in your area. Worst case: you’ll find a few online soul mates.
- Invite a few of your neighbors for dinner if you like to cook, or organize a potluck meal if you don’t.
- Get a dog if you’re an animal lover. Conversations with other dog walkers are guaranteed, and even people without pets will stop to say hello to Max, giving you the perfect opener. Can’t have a pet? Volunteer at your local shelter.
- Work out at a nearby gym or the Y — but don’t just do the machine routine: Join a class so you see the same people every week.
- “Don’t put too much pressure on a fragile new friendship because that can scare people away,” Paul says. If someone doesn’t call you back immediately, don’t assume they simply don’t like you. Try again.
- Have faith — and exercise it. Many churches and synagogues make it a point to welcome newbies and introduce them around.
- Volunteer in your community. Museums, hospitals, churches, animal shelters and schools are always looking for people to help out. Find opportunities in your area at AARP’s createthegood.org or VolunteersofAmerica.org.
- Log on to Meetup.com and enter your ZIP code. You’ll find dozens, even hundreds, of groups in your area, focusing on everything from animals to Zen meditation. Also check out the AARP online community. If you can’t find the right group, you can start your own.
- Be willing to take a risk. When you meet someone you like — a salesperson or someone seated next to you at a lunch counter — take the initiative and ask for an email address. What’s the worst that can happen?
“Joy multiplies when it is shared among friends, but grief diminishes with every division. That is life.”
In a perfect world………
A person should feel as good at 50 as he did at 17 and he would actually be as smart at 50 as he thought he was at 17.
Forget-me-nots would stimulate the memory.
Doing what was good for you would be what you enjoyed doing the most.
Pro baseball players would complain about teachers being paid contracts worth millions of dollars.
Potato chips might have calories, but if you ate them with a dip, the calories would be neutralized.
First impressions wouldn’t count for nearly as much as ultimate performance.
Highway patrolmen would never be around when you’re running late, but would always be at your side when a BMW blows past or a Mac truck won’t get off your bumper.
You know the honeymoon is pretty much over when you start to go out with the boys on Wednesday nights, and so does she.
A fellow got up one Saturday morning with the odd feeling that something about this day was to be different. Something unusual was about to happen. He glanced out the window at the thermometer: 33 degrees. He went downstairs – the clock had stopped at 3 o’clock. He picked up the newspaper and read the date: the 3rd of the month. Threes – that was it! He grabbed the paper and flipped it open to the racing section. Sure enough in the 3rd race, there was a horse named Trio! The fellow hurried to the bank, drew out his life savings and bet it all on the horse to win.
The horse ran third.
“I want to have children, but my friends scare me. One of my friends told me she was in labor for thirty-six hours. I don’t even want to do anything that feels good for thirty-six hours.”
Two friends, one an Optimist and the other a Pessimist could never quite agree on any topic of discussion.
One day the Optimist decided he had found a good way to pull his Pessimistic friend out of his way of continual Pessimistic way of thinking. The Optimist owned a huntin’ dog that could walk on water. His plan? Take the Pessimist and the dog out in a boat duck hunting.
This he did. They got out into the middle of the lake, and the Optimist shot down a duck…the dog immediately walked out across the water, retrieved the duck, and walked back to the boat.
The Optimist looked at his Pessimistic friend and said, “What do you think about that?”
The Pessimist replied, “That dog can’t swim, can he?”
“And as ridiculous as it may sound, sometimes all any of us needs in life is for someone to hold our hand and walk next to us.”
Stay well, do good work, and have fun.
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