“The saddest summary of life contains three descriptions: could have, might have, and should have.”
Have you noticed how the faultless spend so much time finding fault with others that they never have time to see their own? I sometimes think their isolation is because of their perfection when in reality they are just easy to ignore.
OK now that I got that out of my system here are some wise suggestions that I extracted from a list written by Jenny Nichols that I picked up from the Tiny Buddha web site.
Live Life Without Regrets
She wrote: As we get older we learn and grow. But that doesn’t mean we have to regret what we did before we learned how to do things differently. If we didn’t go through those experiences we might not have grown into the strong and knowledgeable people we are today. So what I’m proposing is that we get rid of the negative thoughts—the could have’s, might have’s, and should have’s—and start living a life that won’t make us feel regretful. Not even at an older, wiser age.
Here is a list of things you can do to practice living life with no regrets:
- Realize that it’s okay to make mistakes. Just make sure to learn from your past mistakes, forgive yourself and move on.
- Follow your own path—not one that others want you to follow.
- Find the humor in life and laugh like there is no tomorrow.
- Relax and move with the flow of life by being unafraid of change.
- Be adventurous by trying new things and taking more risks.
- Try to find happiness with as many different people as you can.
- Think for yourself instead of letting other people’s opinions influence you too much.
- Try not to judge people before you get to know them.
- Wish well upon everyone equally and try to admire without envy.
- Don’t try to change someone—love who they are now.
- Enjoy the journey, not just the destination.
- Use your energy wisely because spending energy complaining, worrying or being impatient is just wasted energy.
- Gain independence by realizing that on this earth we are all dependent upon each other.
- Don’t waste time trying to bring disagreeable people around to liking you.
- Become the person you would like to spend the rest of your life with.
- Spend time with people who make you happy while also not depending on other people for your own happiness.
- Stand up for yourself and others and don’t let anyone or anything hold you back.
- Be yourself and love who you are now.
- Be a participant in life rather than an observer.
- Do something every day that makes you feel proud of yourself—commit random acts of kindness whenever you get the chance.
- And always keep on moving forward.
“I would much rather have regrets about not doing what people said, than regretting not doing what my heart led me to and wondering what life had been like if I’d just been myself.”
A woman whose fondness for the good life had taken its toll in added pounds – and girth – was being shown a Jeep by a salesman at an auto dealership. When the salesman’s pitch had run its course, he sought to close with the typical line, “Now what would it take to get you into one of these?”
Looking at the Jeep’s high front seat, the woman replied, “Probably a crowbar.”
Just living is not enough… One must have sunshine, freedom, and a little flower.
Hans Christian Anderson
Alan King was one of my all time favorite comedians, he passed some time ago but his humor lives on.
- On Banks: “Banks have a new image. Now you have ‘a friend,’ your friendly banker. If the banks are so friendly, how come they chain down the pens?”
- On Jewish Mothers: “What’s the difference between a Rottweiler and a Jewish mother? Eventually the Rottweiler lets go.”
- On his parent’s Russian roots: King took his mother, Minnie, to see “Fiddler on the Roof,” thinking the fictitious village of Anatevka might bring back memories of her own childhood village. “And when the show was over and we were back on the street,” Mr. King wrote in his autobiography ‘Name-Dropping: The Life and Lies of Alan King’, “I said, ‘Ma, how did you enjoy it? Did it bring back memories?’” “‘It was wonderful,’ she said. ‘Only I don’t remember so much singing.’ “
- On meeting royalty: Following a performance for the British Royal Family, he was introduced to Queen Elizabeth. “How do you do, Mr. King?” she is reported to have said. “How do you do, Mrs. Queen?” he is said to have replied.
- On Love and Marriage: “If you want to read about love and marriage, you’ve got to buy two separate books”
- On Gifts for the Wife: King told of a Jewish man asking his wife if she would like diamond jewelry, a new car or a trip for their anniversary. She responded that she wanted a divorce. “Oy vey,” the man replied. “I wasn’t planning on spending that much.”
I’ll drive you crazy, but you’re paying for gas.
Hanging in the hallway at the High School are the basketball team pictures from the past 40 years. A player in the center of the front row in each picture holds a basketball identifying the year — “62-63,” “63-64,” “64-65,” etc.
One day I spotted a freshman looking curiously at the photos. Turning to me, he said, “Isn’t it strange how the teams always lost by one point?”
“If you’re going to do something tonight that you’ll be sorry for tomorrow morning, sleep late.”
When her late husband’s will was read, a widow learned he had left the bulk of his fortune to another woman. Enraged, she rushed to change the inscription on her spouse’s tombstone.
“Sorry, lady,” said the stonecutter. “I inscribed ‘Rest in Peace’ on your orders. I can’t change it now.”
“Very well,” she said grimly. “Just add, ‘Until We Meet Again.’ “
“Live with intention. Walk to the edge. Listen hard. Practice wellness. Play with abandon. Laugh. Choose with no regret. Appreciate your friends. Continue to learn. Do what you love. Live as if this is all there is.”
Mary Anne Radmacher
Stay well, do good work, and have fun.
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