Ray's musings and humor

I have found that the best way to give advice to your children is to find out what they want and then advise them to do it.

Harry S. Truman

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I am going to share an article with you today that I strongly agree with. It focuses in on what I have learned in my lifetime and that is that happiness does not come from the trappings of what folks call achievement, things that are recognized by awards, titles or accolades from others. Happiness comes from what we really do over time; it is the day to day activities that provide life’s true rewards. Today in my case it is the daily exercise routines, the friends I meet and lunch with, the time I spend helping organizations achieve their goals, and much more. That is not to say that I have not had more than my fair share of promotions, awards and recognition in my lifetime, I have, but they have come from just being myself doing what made me happy and not from the pain that comes from sacrifice and reaching for unwanted goals.

I am especially concerned about the young people today who are forced into making lifetime commitments when they feel they must chose a lucrative career path even before they have learned about themselves. They are told they must pick a profession that will provide them income and material success and to disregard their other interests. Once they take their first step on to that road they soon find that they are stuck for life in a role that often does not allow them to become the happy person they might have been.

Putting the Happiness Back in “Young and Happy”

Young people are becoming socially isolated, even alienated

Post published by Ran Zilca on Apr 17, 2015 in Confessions of a Techie

When we meet people who seem to be both successful and happy, we tend to think that they are happy because they are successful. Many of us were brought up to think that if we worked hard and succeeded, happiness will naturally follow. In the past few years, researchers have re-examined the relationship between success and happiness, and found that this seemingly-obvious assumption of success leading to happiness is inaccurate. First, happiness is a by-product of the pursuit of success, rather than successful accomplishments. Individuals who are actively engaged in the pursuit of goals that are meaningful to them, experience a range of positive emotions and become happier. Simply put, one does not have to succeed to be happy – the more important thing is to try. In addition, the relationship between success and happiness also goes the other way around: While success could lead to greater happiness, happiness also leads to success. People who experience more positive affect over time are more likely to earn more money, perform better at work, and are better team players.

The net of it is that rather than focusing on performance and accomplishments as our ultimate goals, we would be better off: Focusing on our happiness as the ultimate goal, and:  Choosing goals that are meaningful to us, even if we sometimes fail to accomplish them.

Yet instead, our society often goes in the opposite direction of being fixated on achievement. The fundamental mistake of placing success before happiness now starts at a very young age. While in school, the most important thing is to get into the right college. Many children find themselves focused on their performance: at school, in sports, in playing musical instruments, etc. By the time they graduate from high school, many young people would have sacrificed much of their teenage years. They find themselves getting into the right college, obtaining a scholarship, then graduating, landing a great first job, only to discover that the rat race continues, and now they need to push further to be promoted. Many move far from home instead of getting a job in a place where they can easily find friends, socialize, belong, and contribute. In the meantime, they may realize that they are lonely. They face a new life transition that was not there before – a new step between entering adulthood and starting a family.

Young people are becoming socially isolated, even alienated. Ironically, the saddest young adults are sometimes those who achieved all they set out to. No fun in high school and college, no friends, no girlfriend/boyfriend and a deep astonishment that they are not happy – even though they accomplished everything they had set out to do.

Research has already uncovered the paths to happiness and the risk of over-focusing on performance. To put the Happiness back in Young and Happy, young people should not only focus on performance and success, but on the range of needs and aspirations that they have: to have friends, to find a soul mate, to think, read, perhaps do a few reckless and rebellious things. It could be a tough call though. Given the opportunity to be in the gifted class, get a better-paying job, get into an Ivy League school, would you be able to say no? Will you advise your children to say no?

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Choose a job you love and you will never have to work a day in your life.

Confucius

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When temperatures plunged to 26 degrees below zero Fahrenheit, the Rockford, Ill., Register Star asked its readers to finish the sentence, “It was so cold that…” Here are some of the responses:

…you could freeze an egg on the sidewalk.

…I had to go up and break the smoke off my chimney.

…we opened the refrigerator to heat the house.

…when police saw a bank-robbery suspect and said, “Freeze!” he did.

…I saw a 32nd-degree Mason, and he was down to 15.

…when I called home to Arizona, the message caused the cactus to frost over.

…I let my dog out, and I had to break him loose from the tree.

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I have a mind like a steel… you know… doohicky.

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Donald Ogden Stewart, the writer, had a son away at prep school.  When the boy reached the age of fourteen, Stewart wrote him the following letter:

“Dear son, now that you have reached the magic age of fourteen, the time has come to tell you about the bees and flowers.  There is a male and a female bee, although I haven’t the slightest idea which is which. As for the flowers – we get ours from the Plaza Florist, Inc.

Well, that takes care of that.

Write soon, Affectionately,

Father

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I made a mental note, but forgot where I put it.

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Moshe was taking to his psychiatrist. “I had a weird dream recently,” he says. “I saw my mother but then I noticed she had your face. I found this so worrying that I immediately awoke and couldn’t get back to sleep. I just stayed there thinking about it until 7am. I got up, made myself a slice of toast and some coffee and came straight here. Can you please help me explain the meaning of my dream?”

The psychiatrist kept silent for some time, then said, “One slice of toast and coffee? Do you call that a breakfast?”

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“True happiness is to enjoy the present… without anxious dependence upon the future.”

Seneca

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Stay well, do good work, and have fun.

Ray Mitchell

Indianapolis, Indiana

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Ah, Spring!

I sing of brooks, of blossoms, birds, and bowers:

Of April, May, of June, and July flowers.

I sing of Maypoles, Hock-carts, wassails, wakes,

Of bridegrooms, brides, and of their bridal cakes.

Robert Herrick

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Instead of boarding the ship in Florida that was going to take me on a 10 day cruise today I am home recuperating. The good news is that I am home and not sick aboard ship. I hope you don’t mind that I am sending you another Daily reprint today. I should be back generating new Dailies next week. Have a great weekend!

Ray’s Daily first published on April 17, 2006

It seems like it was just the other day that I said goodbye to summer and sang the praises of autumn with its smells, brisk weather, and the chance to again wear my favorite sweater. I had only blinked my eyes and fall was gone and winter was upon us. And now April is here and flowers are in bloom everywhere; the grass has laid its sheet of green and the yellows, reds and purples marking springs advance stand out announcing that spring has returned. Windows are thrown open all around us and we hear hundreds of birds sing their songs of joy. And all around are people celebrating natures rebirth.

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A little Madness in the Spring

Is wholesome even for the King.

Emily Dickinson

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Let us follow Emily’s advice and let ourselves go. It is time to throw our troubles away for at least a little while so that we can bask in the warmth of the season. I am hanging up my jackets, putting away my sweaters and hollering to those who are about to begin their annual frolic; “wait for me.” Let’s run through the grass holding hands together with the spring rain in our face as we share our thanks for the gifts of Spring.

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Oh, give us pleasure in the flowers today;

And give us not to think so far away

As the uncertain harvest; keep us here

All simply in the springing of the year.

Robert Frost:

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  1. SEUSS COMPUTES

If a packet hits a pocket on a socket on a port,

And the bus is interrupted as a very last resort,

And the address of the memory makes your floppy disk abort,

Then the socket packet pocket has an error to report!

If your cursor finds a menu item followed by a dash,

And the double-clicking icon puts your window in the trash,

And your data is corrupted ’cause the index doesn’t hash,

Then your situation’s hopeless, and your system’s gonna crash!

If the label on the cable on the table at your house,

Says the network is connected to the button on your mouse,

But your packets want to tunnel on another protocol,

That’s repeatedly rejected by the printer down the hall.

And your screen is all distorted by the side effects of gauss

So your icons in the window are as wavy as a souse,

Then you may as well reboot and go out with a bang,

‘Cause as sure as I’m a poet, the sucker’s gonna hang!

When the copy of your floppy’s getting sloppy on the disk,

And the microcode instructions cause unnecessary risk,

Then you have to flash your memory

and you’ll want to RAM your ROM.

Quickly turn off the computer and be sure to tell your mom!

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Take interest in your future. It’s where you’re going to spend the rest of your life.

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A 50-ish man is driving on a slow highway in the middle of the night. He has a flat tire. He gets out of his car and is changing his tire, when out of the blue, another car pulls up behind him.

He thinks “That’s nice. Someone is stopping to help me.”

The guy gets out of his car, walks to the front of the other car and lifts the hood.

The owner says: “What the hell are you doing?”

The other guy replies: “Well, I see you’re stealing the tires, so I’m taking the damn battery!”

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“If you don’t make mistakes it means you’re not really trying… and you’re probably boring too.”

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Pastor Dave Charlton tells us, “After a worship service at First Baptist Church in Newcastle, Kentucky, a mother with a fidgety seven-year old boy told me how she finally got her son to sit still and be quiet. About halfway through the sermon, she leaned over and whispered, ‘If you don’t be quiet, Pastor Charlton is going to lose his place and will have to start his sermon all over again!’ It worked.”

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Friendship is what binds the world together in peace, may we all become friends.

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The teenager lost a contact lens while playing basketball in his driveway. After a fruitless search, he told his mother the lens was nowhere to be found.

Undaunted, she went outside and in a few minutes, returned with the lens in her hand.

“How did you manage to find it, Mom?” the teenager asked.

“We weren’t looking for the same thing,” she replied. “You were looking for a small piece of plastic. I was looking for $150.”

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“If at first you don’t succeed, you’re running about average.”

W.E. Hickson

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Always remember.

The driver in front of you is always an idiot.

The driver in back of you is always a moron.

If there is a driver on your right, he/she is always stupid.

If there is a car on your left, the driver is always an imbecile until he/she finishes passing you and you can take that lane.

Then, he/she becomes an idiot.

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“I was walking the streets of Glasgow the other week and I saw this sign: ‘This door is alarmed.’ I said to myself: ‘How do you think I feel?'”

Arnold Brown

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Come, gentle Spring; ethereal Mildness, come!

James Thomson

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Stay well, do good work, and have fun.

Ray Mitchell

Indianapolis, Indiana

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Shared joy is a double joy; shared sorrow is half a sorrow.

Swedish Proverb

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Sorry for the Daily suspension for the last few days. Last Saturday was our 62 wedding anniversary and we were scheduled to celebrate over dinner in a fine restaurant but I ended up in the hospital with some internal problems and my wife fasted until 2 AM when they moved me from the emergency room to a hospital bed. I was released late yesterday after days of little to no food and a myriad of tests. I did loose six pounds in the process. Unfortunately we were to leave for a ten day anniversary cruise today but I was not allowed to travel so my wife and I have deferred our celebrations for a few days.

Rather than write a new Daily today I am sending you what I wrote on our 61st anniversary.

1953 Highlights

Average Cost of new house  $9.550.00

Average wages per year  $4,000.00

Cost of a gallon of Gas  20 cents

Average Cost of a new car  $1,650.00

Significant April Dates

April 7 – Dag Hammarskjöld is elected United Nations Secretary General.

April 8 – Jomo Kenyatta is sentenced to seven years in prison for the alleged organization of the Mau Mau Rebellion.

April 11 – Nancy and Ray Mitchell marry at Columbia University’s Notre Dame Chapel

April 13 Ian Fleming publishes his first James Bond novel, Casino Royale in the United Kingdom.

April 16 President Eisenhower delivers his “Chance for Peace” speech to the National Association of Newspaper Editors.[4]

A four-story building in Chicago belonging to the Habar Corporation catches fire, killing 35 employees.

April 17 – Mickey Mantle hits a 565 foot (172 m) home run at Griffith Stadium in Washington D.C. Mantle’s home run is believed to be the longest home run in baseball history by many historians.

Events

The first issue of TV Guide magazine hits the newsstands on April 3 in 10 cities with a circulation of 1,560,000.

To counteract the threat of television, Hollywood thinks big and develops wide-screen processes such as CinemaScope, first seen in The Robe.

Lucille Ball gives birth to Desi Arnaz, Jr. on same day the fictional Little Ricky is born on I Love Lucy.

Playboy magazine hits newsstands. A nude Marilyn Monroe graces the cover.

Movies

The Robe, From Here to Eternity, Shane, Roman Holiday

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Yep, Nancy and I got married 61 years ago today. We were very young, she was working for the Chase Bank and I had been called into the Navy because of the Korean conflict. We had met on a blind date during a visit I had made to New York City. Shortly after we married I was assigned to an aircraft carrier that took me on a sea journey around the globe and kept us separated for almost a year. But that was after we had honeymooned briefly in New York and Chicago.

Our long life together has allowed us the opportunity to raise three children and watch them become outstanding successes in their chosen professions. They have done well to a large extent because of the good job their mother did bringing them up since I was away on business so much that it often seemed like she was the only parent.

How fortunate I have been to have been chosen by her to be her husband. We. like most people have had good times and a few bad times. My jobs and often my behavior tested our marriage on occasion but we always survived. The secret has been partnering with someone who is tolerant and forgiving. We support each other’s differences as we often pursue our individual interests.

The bottom line is that we are compatible; we take individual responsibility for making our lives together work without letting our differences interfere with our relationship. I was truly blessed to have been able to join with my wife so long ago for there is not a year that goes by that she does not do something in time of a need that deepens my appreciation for our life partnership.

Times are lot different now than they were back in 1953 but for my bride and myself each year that has gone by is better than the last and what more can you ask for than that.

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Remember, we all stumble, every one of us. That’s why it’s a comfort to go hand in hand.

Emily Kimbrough

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The bride was anything but a tidy housekeeper. It didn’t bother her much until one evening when her husband called from the hall, somewhat dismayed: “Honey, what happened to the dust on this table? I had a phone number written on it.”

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A successful man is one who makes more money than his wife can spend. A successful woman is one who can find such a man.

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The husband didn’t want to play in the “Couples Alternate Shot Tournament” at the club, but he reluctantly agreed just for the sake of martial harmony. He got the first shot. He teed off, a par four, and fired a drive 300 yard down the middle of the fairway.

When they reached the ball, he said to his wife (a novice golfer), “Just hit it towards the green, hon, anywhere around there will be fine.”

She proceeded to knock the ball deep into the woods.

Undaunted, he said, “That’s ok, dear, we’ll play it.” He spent five full minutes looking for the ball. He played it for the shot of his life and actually put the ball just two feet from the hole on the green.

Arriving on the green he said, “Now, dear, all you have to do is knock it gently into the hole.” She whacked it a good one, right off the green and into a sand trap.

The husband, still retaining his composure, marched into the sand trap, summoned all of his skill, and amazingly holed the shot from there.

Retrieving the ball from the hole he put his arm around his wife and calmly said, “Honey, that was a bogey — one over par — but that’s ok. I think we can do better on the next hole.”

She snapped back at him, “Don’t bitch at ME. Only *2* of those *5* shots were mine!”

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Marriage is when a man and woman become as one; the trouble starts when they try to decide which one.

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A lady was taking her time browsing through everything at a yard sale and said to the hostess, “My husband is going to be very angry when he finds out I stopped at a yard sale.”

“I’m sure he’ll understand when you tell him about all the bargains,” the hostess replied.

“Normally, yes,” the lady said.  “But he just broke his leg, and he’s waiting for me to take him to the hospital to have it set.”

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As a housewife, I feel that if the kids are still alive when my husband gets home from work, then hey, I’ve done my job.

Roseanne Barr

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One afternoon a man came home from work to find total mayhem in his house. His three children were outside, still in their pajamas, playing in the mud, with empty food boxes and wrappers strewn all around the front yard. The door of his wife’s car was open, as was the front door to the house.

Proceeding into the entry, he found an even bigger mess. A lamp had been knocked over, and the throw rug was wadded against one wall. In the front room the TV was loudly blaring a cartoon channel, and the family room was strewn with toys and various items of clothing. In the kitchen, dishes filled the sink, breakfast food was spilled on the counter, dog food was spilled on the floor, a broken glass lay under the table, and a small pile of sand was spread by the back door.

He quickly headed up the stairs, stepping over toys and more piles of clothes, looking for his wife. He was worried she may be ill, or that something serious had happened. He found her lounging in the bedroom, still curled in the bed in her pajamas, reading a novel. She looked up at him, smiled, and asked how his day went.

He looked at her bewilderedly and asked, “What happened here today?”

She again smiled and answered, “You know every day when you come home from work you ask me what in the world I did all day?”

“Yes,” was his incredulous reply.

She answered, “Well, today I didn’t do it.”

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Piglet sidled up to Pooh from behind. “Pooh!” he whispered. “Yes, Piglet?” “Nothing,” said Piglet, taking Pooh’s paw. “I just wanted to be sure of you.”

A.A. Milne

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Stay well, do good work, and have fun.

Ray Mitchell

Indianapolis, Indiana

Management is not responsible for duplicates from previous dailies. The editor is somewhat senile.

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Staying Young

Count your age by friends, not years. Count your life by smiles, not tears.

John Lennon

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Years ago Satchel Page asked “How old would you be if you did not know how old you were?” I know we have talked about before but I am still amazed at how old some young people are and how young some oild people are. I think the secret is one of maintain a realistic positive attitude while continuing to live full and interesting lives. I know my body keeps trying to tell me I am older than I think I am but I have found that if take care of it the best I can while not letting it convince me to slow down I can still get plenty of pleasure out of my life.

Here are excerpts from an article I picked up from the Heart of Healing blog holds some of the secrets of living happily all your life.

Aging Gracefully

Enjoy a Vital, Fulfilling Life Regardless of Age

More often than not, aging is viewed as something to be fought off for as long as possible. Regardless of how liberated we’ve become, many women and men still experience aging as a threat to their sense of self worth and quality of life. It is pretty much expected that middle age will bring a “crisis” and far too often we hear seniors lament that “I thought these were supposed to be the golden years.”

What if aging were equated with getting better rather than worse? What if you lived in a culture which reveres the elderly and views them as a repository of power and wisdom? Since how we age has so much to do with our attitudes and beliefs, such a shift in perspective could make a world of difference.

Two Basic Requirements of Graceful Aging

What I’ve discovered is that there are two “basic requirements” of graceful aging. To borrow from the “Serenity Prayer”, graceful aging requires the “serenity to accept the things we cannot change; courage to change the things we can; and wisdom to know the difference.”  Certainly acceptance of aging is a key to aging gracefully – but which of the changes that commonly come with age are the “things we cannot change” and which are the “things we can change?”

What You Can and Cannot Change — Importance of Relaxation

These two major requirements of successful aging – accepting the aging process and not accepting what we can change — may at first seem contradictory.  Sometimes success in life involves the ability embrace the paradox that when we accept life at it is at the moment, it paradoxically opens a doorway for positive change.

The bottom line, as I see it, is the ability to relax with whatever challenges us at any given time and that includes the changes aging brings. When we are relaxed, we are open to different ways of looking at things. Relaxation brings us out of the “fight or flight” mode that causes us to act impulsively, and gives us more ability to reflect on things. Instead of running out to buy some new anti-aging product, we can spend some time examining our fears and learning whether they are based in reality or on some cultural programming that we’d be better off ignoring.

What We Can Change — The Role of Attitude and Lifestyle

It’s been discovered that attitude has an enormous role in how we age. Much of the decline that people experience with aging comes about due to the belief that decline in function and quality of life is part and parcel of aging. In addition, many of the problems of age are not due to the process of aging itself, but rather due to the effects of a lifetime of stress and poor health habits. It’s never too late to change the two most important ingredients to graceful aging – attitude and lifestyle.

Finding a Balance

Finally, graceful aging means finding a balance between acceptance of the inevitability of aging and doing what we can to remain vital and healthy as long as possible. Once again, we emphasize the importance of relaxing. Acceptance involves relaxation into life and the ability to flow with change. When we are relaxed, we stop fighting the inevitable. At the same time, relaxation is a key to better health and greater vitality.

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To keep the heart unwrinkled, to be hopeful, kindly, cheerful, reverent – that is to triumph over old age.

Thomas Bailey Aldrich

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She said: Waiting for our aerobics class to begin, several of us were standing around in our leotards chatting about fitness and diets. One woman said that her brother-in-law had quit smoking, gone on a diet and lost weight all at the same time.

Thinking to myself that no human being could possibly do this without acquiring at least one other undesirable habit for compensation, I jokingly asked her, “What did he start doing instead of these things?”

After a slight pause, she smiled and said, “Well, my sister is pregnant now.”

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Middle age is having a choice of two temptations and choosing the one that will get you home earlier.

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She said: When my son graduated from high school, he had to give a speech. He began by reading from his prepared text. “I want to talk about my mother and the wonderful influence she has had on my life,” he told the audience. “She is a shining example of parenthood, and I love her more than words could ever do justice.”

At this point he seemed to struggle for words. After a pause, looking up with a sly grin he said, “It’s really hard to read my mom’s handwriting.”

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“The whole secret of life is to be interested in one thing profoundly and in a thousand things well.”

Horace Walpole

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She said: This is how men participate with childbirth; they come into the room and say, “Breathe.” Is that really sharing the experience? If I ever have a baby again I want my husband to be on the table next to me, at least getting his legs waxed.

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“Why is the place you drive on is a parkway, and the place you park on is the driveway?”

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Our family took a ski trip, and I was knocked unconscious by the chairlift. I called my insurance company from the hospital, but it refused to cover my injury.

“Why not?” I complained.

“You got hit in the head by a chairlift,” the insurance rep said.  “That makes you a moron, and we consider that a pre-existing condition.”

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“I asked God for a bike, but I know God doesn’t work that way. So I stole a bike and asked for forgiveness.”

Emo Philips

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A wife went to the police station with her next-door neighbor to report that her husband was missing. The policeman asked for a description. She said, “He’s 35 years old, 6 foot 4, has dark eyes, dark wavy hair, an athletic build, weighs 185 pounds, is soft-spoken, and is good to the children.”

The next-door neighbor protested, “Your husband is 5 foot 4, chubby, bald, has a big mouth, and is mean to your children.”

The wife replied, “Yes, but who wants HIM back?”

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“Youth. I don’t seek it through another because I have it within; it’s a state of mind, a spirit that is free, and a mind that is playful. The shell of my being is altered by the effects of time, but nothing will tarnish a soul that will never forget what it’s like to experience creation with endless wonder and appreciation. Each time I see the first snowfall of the season I feel it’s the first time I’ve seen it at all.”

Donna Lynn Hope

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Stay well, do good work, and have fun.

Ray Mitchell

Indianapolis, Indiana

Management is not responsible for duplicates from previous dailies. The editor is somewhat senile.

This daily is sent only to special people who want to start their day on an upbeat. If you have system overload because of our daily clutter, let me know and I will send you the information via mental telepathy. If you have not been getting our daily you can request to be added by e-mailing me at raykiwsp@gmail.com. Back issues are posted at https://raykiwsp.wordpress.com/ currently there are more than 2000 readers from around the world.

You do, you know

“You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection”

Gautama Buddha

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One of the things that bother me is how many people seem to think less of themselves then they should. Even people with talent sometimes seem to feel that they don’t measure up. The question is measure up to what? It seems like too many of us let others or our culture convince us that we are unworthy because we have not reached someone else’s lofty goal. What is so sad is that these good people are great at being themselves but they don’t see the value in what they do.

What about you? Do you know how good you are? Do you appreciate all that is good in what do? I hope you do. If you need some reinforcement here are excerpts from a piece written by Laura G. Jones. I found it on the Think Simple Now blog.

How to Accept Yourself Fully

It’s Not The End Of The World

Put yourself in the situation of your fear being true. The first step of what you dreaded has happened. What now? If you really think about it, you may just realize that it’s not that big of a deal.

You live and let live. You just move on. You won’t die. You won’t turn into a werewolf. You won’t pick up drugs. You’ll be just fine. You might even learn a thing or two from it.

Anxiety and worry focus on a narrow perspective. They turn a potential event into a major threat by blowing up the negative consequences. You have to work to see the whole picture, but once you do, you see the inner Photoshop in action and are able to let it go.

People Want To Like You

Contrary to my inner ramblings, no one was really out to hate and humiliate me. Au contraire. People feel lonely. They are looking for a pleasant encounter — someone to like. As much as hating and yelling can be cathartic, doing that is not pleasant by any meaning of the word. The people you’re interacting with are people who have something or another in common with you — whether it be that you simply take the same train to work, are both looking for a match (e.g., company — employee) or are in some way connected to you (professor, boss). Also, they feel lonely too. They want to be liked.

As long as you treat them with respect, love, and trust, they don’t give a rat’s booty about what shortcomings you have.

You’re Using The Wrong Mirror

Don’t you just hate those extra magnifying mirrors that show you every pore and zit on your face? All they do is point out every little imperfect detail about your face. When you criticize yourself, the default mirror you’re looking at yourself with is that ginormous super-mirror that shows off every little imperfection. You see everything that you don’t like within yourself, and you cringe, because others don’t seem to have those things.

But what you’re really doing is comparing apples to oranges, because you can’t look at others with that mirror. You see them with a much bigger mirror, one that makes those imperfections much smaller and showcases their positive qualities just as much. So switch the mirror you look at yourself with. Take some perspective. See yourself for who you really are.

Keep a long, open list of reasons why you’re not a fraud — in all facets of your life. With evidence.

Actually notice when you do something well, and don’t be afraid to pat yourself on your back — loving yourself does not lead to cockiness or a loss of friends. When you catch yourself being stuck in worry and anxiety, pull out the notebooks, or even a sheet of paper. Write down everything that is good and amazing about yourself — it’s only fair to balance out the mirrors.

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“What lies behind us and what lies before us are tiny matters compared to what lies within us.”

Ralph Waldo Emerson

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Bernie had a fight with Rachel, his wife, and went to the movies to cool off. Later that evening, he decided to phone home to see what the situation was and maybe even apologize.

“Hello, darling,” he said, “what are you making for dinner?”

“What am I making for dinner? After all the horrible things you said to me earlier, you want to know what I am making for dinner?? Poison, that’s what I’m making, poison.”

Bernie replies, “Okay then, just make one portion, I’m not coming home.”

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How can you add one to infinity?

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There was a knock at the door.  It was a small boy, about five years old.  Something of his had found its way into my garage, he said, and he wanted it back. Upon opening the garage door, I noticed two additions: a baseball and a broken window sporting a baseball-sized hole.

“How do you suppose this ball got in here?” I asked the boy.

Taking one look at the ball, one look at the window, and one look at me, the boy exclaimed, “Wow!  I must have thrown it right through that hole!”

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I didn’t believe in reincarnation the last time, either.

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A big-city counterfeiter decided the best place to pass off his phony $18 bills would be in some small hick Texas town. So, he got into his new wheels and off he went. He found a tiny town with a single store. He entered the store and handed one of the bogus bills to the man behind the counter. “Can you change this for me, please?” he said.

The store clerk looked at the $18 bill a short time, then smiled  and told the man, “Ah reckon so, Mister. Ya want 2 nines or 3 sixes?”

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If you really want the last word in an argument, try saying, “I guess you’re right.”

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She said: We’ve been letting our six-year-old go to sleep listening to the radio, and I’m beginning to wonder if it’s a good idea. Last night he said his prayers and wound up with: And God bless Mommy and Daddy and Sister. Amen and FM!

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I am a mental tourist. My mind wanders.

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The detective was interviewing the man whose clothing shop had just been burglarized.

“It’s bad,” said the proprietor, “but it’s not as bad as it could have been if he’d robbed me yesterday.”

“Why is that?” the detective asked.

“Because today everything was on sale.”

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I don’t have a solution but I really admire the problem.

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She said: I was teaching a life-skills class to my high school students one day, and we were discussing the various terms one might encounter in a restaurant.  I asked, “What does ‘a la carte’ mean?”

“It means,” one student answered, “you’re in the wrong restaurant.”

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“If only you could sense how important you are to the lives of those you meet; how important you can be to people you may never even dream of. There is something of yourself that you leave at every meeting with another person.”

Fred Rogers

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Stay well, do good work, and have fun.

Ray Mitchell

Indianapolis, Indiana

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Enjoy the trip

“Happiness is not a station you arrive at, but a manner of traveling.”

Margaret Lee Runbeck

 ! 00000 wellbeing

I sometimes wonder why I enjoy my life so much even when things are not going all that well. Folks often comment on my usual positive outlook. I am not sure I am all that much different than most people I just find that if I concentrate on what is good in my life it does not leave much time to think about what isn’t so good.

I think the reason that I worry less and enjoy more is from a sense of wellbeing. I have had some tough times in my life since childhood, most people have. I have learned that you can get through the bad days if you don’t let them take you down. It may rain today but that will provide what is needed for the flowers to bloom tomorrow when they sun calls them forward.

Here are tips on how you can develop your sense of wellbeing from the Top Life Blog that I find interesting, you might as well.

5 Key Components of Mental Well-Being

Discover Your Main Purpose and Develop Some Goals that Would Fulfill that Purpose

Your main purpose doesn’t need to be complicated.  There are many resources that will help you discover what your main life’s mission would be.

I was able to come up with my own purpose or mission statement.  I wrote it on an index card: My purpose is to use my creativity and love of learning in business and personal development areas of life to encourage and inspire others to reach their potential in living a life of purpose, joy, and freedom.

Develop Your Own Bias for Action Each Day

One of my favorite quotes about the topic of taking action is from the great Italian painter, Leonardo da Vinci: Iron rusts from disuse, stagnant water loses its purity, and in cold weather becomes frozen; even so does inaction sap the vigor’s of the mind. I believe that one of the biggest hindrances to mental well-being is the feeling of listlessness.

Having a purpose statement and sets of goals is a good start.  What really makes a difference is when you take action on your objectives in life. You begin to feel better about yourself and about life when you develop this bias for action every day.  Even one small step in the right direction makes a difference.

Write Out and Review a Daily Gratitude List

The practice of daily gratitude has a profound effect upon our mood and attitude in life. It’s easy to focus on negative aspects of life.  The weather may be gloomy.  We tend to think about the things we lack in life. Someone once said (or wrote) that we often forget the things we ought to remember, and remember the things we ought to forget. It’s easy to forget good parts of our lives when we face obstacles or challenges. That’s why the practice or habit of daily gratitude is so important.

Monitor and Carefully Choose the Thoughts That You Dwell Upon

On a recent holiday, I remember reading a quote in a café that said “Don’t believe everything you think.” This is wise advice. If we all decided to consciously and wisely choose the thoughts that we dwell upon, the quality of life that we all have would improve.

A major feature of positive or productive thinking is to live your life in the present.  Many of us tend to either regret the past, or worry about the future and the things that we cannot control in life. Rather than live in the unchangeable past, or the unknown future, begin to think about how you can make the most of each present moment.

Choose Your Influences Wisely

We are all influenced in many ways by television and print media, the Internet and the people that we associate with. If you’re not careful, these types of things and people may “bring you down”, lead you away from your goals, or affect your mental well-being. What you allow into your mind will influence your day.  It can either lead you to a path of growth, development and progress for your life or your goal, or it can distract you, hinder your progress, and derail your goals and dreams.

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“The man who has no inner life is the slave of his surroundings.”

Henri Frederic Amiel

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He said: I’ve sure gotten old.  I’ve had 2 by-pass surgeries, a hip replacement, new knees, fought prostate cancer, and diabetes.  I’m half blind, can’t hear anything quieter than a jet engine, take 40 different medications that make me dizzy, winded, and subject to blackouts. Have bouts with dementia.  Have poor circulation, hardly feel my hands and feet anymore.  Can’t remember if I’m 85 or 92. Have lost all my friends.

But… Thank God, I still have my Florida driver’s license!

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The person who agrees with everything you say either isn’t paying attention or plans to sell you something.

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In 1964, a US Navy cruiser put into port in Mobile, Alabama for a week’s R&R. The first evening, the Captain was more than a little surprised to receive the following letter from the wife of a very wealthy plantation owner and industrialist:

Dear Captain: Thursday will be my daughter Susan’s debutante ball. I would like you to send four well-mannered, handsome, unmarried officers. They should arrive at 8 p.m. sharp, prepared for an evening of polite Southern conversation and dancing with lovely young ladies.

PS: No Jews, please.

Sure enough, at 8 p.m. on Thursday, the lady followed her butler to answer a rap at the door which was opened by the butler. She found in dress uniform, four handsome, exquisitely mannered and smiling African American naval officers. Her lower jaw hit the floor, but pulling herself together she stammered, “There must be some mistake.”

Madam,” said the first officer, “Captain Cohen doesn’t make mistakes.

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Hello. Incontinence Hotline. Can you hold?

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“So, what’s the matter? I thought you just got back from a nice relaxing fishing trip with your husband.”

“Oh, everything went wrong: First he said I talked so loud I would scare the fish. Then he said I was using the wrong bait; and then that I was reeling in too soon.

“All that might have been all right; but then, to make matters worse, I ended up catching the most fish!”

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“As a child my family’s menu consisted of two choices: take it, or leave it.”

Buddy Hackett

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One of the joys of living in a small town was revealed to me while I vacationed in a northern Michigan village.  At the post office, I noticed a poster with a photograph of a woman smiling.  Just below the picture was this message: “Have you seen this person?  If so, give her a hug. Today is her birthday.”

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He who slings mud loses ground.

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He said: I know I’m not going to understand women. I’ll never understand how you can take boiling hot wax, pour it onto your upper thigh, rip the hair out by the root, and still be afraid of a spider.

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The foolish man seeks happiness in the distance; the wise grows it under his feet.

James Openheim

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Stay well, do good work, and have fun.

Ray Mitchell

Indianapolis, Indiana

Management is not responsible for duplicates from previous dailies. The editor is somewhat senile.

This daily is sent only to special people who want to start their day on an upbeat. If you have system overload because of our daily clutter, let me know and I will send you the information via mental telepathy. If you have not been getting our daily you can request to be added by e-mailing me at raykiwsp@gmail.com. Back issues are posted at https://raykiwsp.wordpress.com/ currently there are more than 2000 readers from around the world.

Good health is not something we can buy. However, it can be an extremely valuable savings account.

Anne Wilson Schaef

 ! 0000 Busy

People have commented lately that I appear to be moving a little slow and look like I have regained some of the weight I had lost, unfortunately they are right. It has taken me much longer than it should for me to get back to where I was before this year’s medical adventures. Sadly it is mostly due to my not getting my act back together, it is has been too easy to eat too much and to miss my full exercise routines.

I know what I need to do and I need to start doing it. Yesterday I did lengthen my workout and that is a small start. I lost my diet partner that I use to e-mail my weight daily so I decided I will be my own weight loss partner. That also means I need to again start documenting my progress on My Fitness Pal.

At any age it is wise to treat your body well. I know from past experiences that when my weight is down I feel much better so here we go again, frugal healthy food habits combined with more exercise. It will be my summer gift to myself.

I recently ran across an article on the Building 25 blog entitled Gifts To Give To Your Body that we should all heed. Here in part is what I found.

With so much coming at us from all angles every day, it may slip our minds that the most effective of healers are with us at all times: our very own bodies. I was recently talking to my friend about just that, and she said something that really stuck with me. The sole purpose of the body is to keep itself alive. If we each give our body even the slightest bit of what it needs, it will gladly accept that positive gift – in fact, it will take that gift and run with it.

  • Sleep is one of the easiest gifts to give to our bodies – even if we fight it, it’ll eventually happen on its own. But for some reason, we fight and fight and fight, trying to convince ourselves that whatever else is going on in our crazy lives is more important than sleep. But that couldn’t be further from the truth. Sleep is the body’s prime time to heal itself and get back on track for whatever it will endure the following day. And if you’re well-rested, you’ll find that it’s much easier to be productive – you’ll feel much more rewarded come the end of the day. Try your hardest to make ample time for sleep. Cut out an hour that may have been spent on social media and shut your beautiful eyes. When you wake up feeling well-rested and ready for what’s to come – quite possibly for the first time in years – you may find that sleep will make its way back to the top of your priority list.
  • A good stretch is something our bodies crave – fulfill the urge! Stretching feels incredibly good, and has tons of benefits for you to enjoy. A little bit of stretching every morning can help reduce stress, increase circulation, make you more flexible, and prevent injury, just to name a few. Stretching brings me to my next point: physical activity – our bodies are wired for it!
  • Make it a priority to be physical in some way every day – even if that just means a brisk 20-minute walk. Just do it. It’s easy to make excuses – I do it, too – but, when you really think about it… what’s the point?
  • Nutrients – the good kind. Hunger is an urge we all make a point to fulfill – whether we do so in the best ways, though, is a different story. Make a resolution to take in more of the good and less of the bad. Eat whole foods that come straight from the earth. The more processed it is, the more you may want to stay away. Expand your diet by trying new things; make healthy substitutions; experiment with your own creations.
  • Water makes up over two thirds of a person’s body weight. It’s essential for our survival, yet so many of us are moving through our lives in a constant state of dehydration. Let’s change that. Sip clean, sip often. It’s simple, it’s refreshing, and its benefits are plentiful.

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The greatest wealth is health.

Virgil

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A teacher was taking her first golf lesson.

“Is the word spelled ‘put’ or ‘putt’?” she asked the instructor.

“‘Putt’ is correct,” he replied. “‘Put’ means to place a thing where you want it. ‘Putt’ means a vain attempt to do the same thing.”

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When I was born I was so surprised I didn’t talk for a year and a half.

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Just as she was celebrating her 80th birthday, our friend received a jury-duty notice.  She called to remind the people at the clerk’s office that she was exempt because of her age.

“You need to come in and fill out the exemption forms,” they said.

“I’ve already done that,” she replied.  “I did it last year.”

“You have to do it every year,” she was told.

“Why?” came the response.  “Do you think I’m going to suddenly get younger?”

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“The moon is a friend for the lonesome to talk to.”

Carl Sandburg

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Signs You’re the Reincarnation of Someone Famous…

-During a thunderstorm, you build a giant boat and start stealing your neighbor’s pets.

-Not only do you consider Yoko an artistic genius, you think she’s beautiful and has a lovely singing voice.

-While working under the sink, you get this insatiable urge to paint a church ceiling.

-You’re found writing down rules of the office on giant stone tablets.

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Logic is the art of going wrong with confidence.

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She said: After years of using the same perfumes, I decided to try something different and settled on a light, citrusy fragrance. The next day I was surprised when it was my little boy, not my husband, who first noticed the change.  As he put his arms around me, he declared, “Wow, Mom, you smell just like Froot Loops!”

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“I learned long ago, never to wrestle with a pig. You get dirty, and besides, the pig likes it.”

George Bernard Shaw

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AMISH VIRUS

You have just received the Amish Virus. Since we do not have electricity nor computers, you are on the honor system. Please delete all of your files.

Thank thee.

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Your children may leave home, but their stuff will be in your attic and basement forever.

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Sitting by the window of her convent, Sister Barbara opened a letter from home one evening.

Inside the letter was a $100 bill her parents had sent. Sister Barbara smiled at the gesture.  As she read the letter by the window, she noticed a shabbily dressed stranger leaning against the lamp post below.

Quickly, she wrote, “Don’t despair.  Sister Barbara,” on a piece of paper, wrapped the $100 bill in it, got the man’s attention and tossed it out the window to him.  The stranger picked it up, and with a puzzled expression and a tip of his hat, went off down the street.

The next day, Sister Barbara was told that a man was at her door, insisting on seeing her.  She went down, and found the stranger waiting.  Without a word, he handed her a huge wad of $100 bills.

“What’s this?” she asked.  “That’s the $8,000 you have coming Sister,” he replied.  “Don’t Despair paid 80-to-1.”

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“Take care of your body. It’s the only place you have to live.”

Jim Rohn

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Stay well, do good work, and have fun.

Ray Mitchell

Indianapolis, Indiana

Management is not responsible for duplicates from previous dailies. The editor is somewhat senile.

This daily is sent only to special people who want to start their day on an upbeat. If you have system overload because of our daily clutter, let me know and I will send you the information via mental telepathy. If you have not been getting our daily you can request to be added by e-mailing me at raykiwsp@gmail.com. Back issues are posted at https://raykiwsp.wordpress.com/ currently there are more than 2000 readers from around the world.

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